It’s summer and there’s beautiful women everywhere. Having psychosis as an illness is a deal breaker for most. The stigma is there! So I don’t approach women at all. Not that I can, I get too nervous anyways. But man it sucks!
I’m depressed about this! It’s summer and I should be happy but I’m not.
Approaching women you don’t know - even at clubs or bars- it’s not the most effective strategy for most heterosexual men. I’d simply advice either joining social activities where you get to mingle with women, make use of your friends’ network or join a dating site.
I know you are probably hoping you can break out of your shell one day but just in case you can’t you can always try to handle life alone. But if you can break out of your shell it’s easier than you think to talk to a woman and I imagine in some cases it’s easier than you think to have sex with one. However it’s not easy to take care of a kid, or an adult with schizophrenia. Don’t leap unless you are willing to face the consequences.
I’m still very attracted to women, I have no self confidence but I’m working on it, once I lose the med weight for good I will cautiously put myself back out there. There’s nothing wrong with being attracted to whoever you’re attracted to even with sz, we all having something to offer, there’s a really attractive girl at the gas station near me and I’ve been able to have brief conversations with her instead of just standing there with the blank med glazed look.
Having schizophrenia is a deal breaker when it comes to dating.
I did an experiment. I signed up on 4 dating sites. I used the same pictures and wrote the same stuff on all of them. On 2 of them I wrote I had schizophrenia and on 2 of them I left that information out.
I’m sure you can all guess what happened. On the 2 websites that I wrote I had schizophrenia I got zero responses. On the other 2 websites I left that information out I got a few responses. I kept my profiles up for a few weeks then closed them down.
After that experiment I became discouraged about dating while having schizophrenia.
To share my experience, not even a schizophrenic woman could date me because of the vast distances (she lived in another city 1,000 miles away). It’s really rare for a male and female schizophrenic to get together because schizophrenics represent 1% of a population whether it be in a city or country.
Most users on this forum who have a significant or are married are with a normal person. I say continue to strive & struggle to find a significant other who is normal because that seems to be what the facts and stats are.
My husband has mental illness like I do, but his is severe depression and anxiety. He’s also physically disabled. His first wife left him because she didn’t want to deal with a man who went from working to being disabled. He thought he’d never be with anyone again. But he and I met each other one day and the rest is history. It’s possible to find someone. Don’t give up
It’s not lying if you dont tell em, you don’t owe them anything. Also tons of girls are into one night stands… If you’re good looking, dont worry about psychosis. If you arent try and train your character, become intriguing or get lot’s of social validation and friends. And if she falls in love she’ll see through the stigma (if you’re stable at least)
If you ever want to be better at getting with women, you’re going to have to confront your anxieties around them. Be willing to embarrass yourself, because it’s likely going to happen. Just know it’s okay. It’s also okay to be turned down, or to find out you’re not actually into a person after all. These are all normal outcomes for everyone, don’t be hard on yourself if you feel like you aren’t getting anywhere.
You don’t have to be physically attractive, either. Personality, especially humor, goes a long way.
There’s success in frequency. If you never try, you can never hope to find someone. The more you try, the greater likelihood of success. It’s more of a mathematical problem than people realize.