Feel free to share your advice!
Here’s mine:
Be friendly.
That is all !
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My current advice for people in my situation is:
Don’t date, then you dont need any advice.
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Don’t let rejection get you down.
It’s a normal part of dating.
You will find someone if you keep looking.
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Also,
Don’t say you have schizophrenia like ten minutes into a conversation or on your profile.
I realize some people believe this is a way of being honest,
But it’s just weird.
Let someone get to know you a little then tell if you want.
Nothing says you have to disclose your illness just like you wouldn’t expect them to divulge their personal medical history first date.
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Ten years ago on the second date I told her was on Zyprexa, and she found out what they treat
She dumped me, saying I don’t want to date a pick axe murderer, I felt hurt by that at the time
My advice is don’t disclose your illness till well into a relationship
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First impressions make a lasting schema of how a woman perceives you. For example, the apparel worn during the first meet will set the bar for future consecutive meets (if you get that far). Maintaining a business casual attire and being well groomed while during every encounter with the woman takes money, time & effort.
As for disclosing that you have a mental illness, just as others have stated is to tell the woman well into the relationship.
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About three weeks is the sweet spot.
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I showed up in worn out jeans, a worn out hoodie, and a Dr. Who t-shirt. She was dressed nicely. I simply told her that I wasn’t going to pretend to be someone other than who I am. That was me and that was how I dressed.
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How handsome you must have been in her eyes. 
I guess the waiter at the restaurant knew who to give the dinner bill to after the meal is finished. 
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This.
Pretending to be something is a great way to get dumped later.
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There is such a thing as going dutch.
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I should have given a coffee shop example rather than a fine dining restaurant then.
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When I was dating I always made it a point to pay for half the stuff.
Whether it was splitting the bill or paying every other time.
Men shouldn’t have to go broke dating.
We all should.
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I have been on around 25 dates with different people, most of them online dating. I think of these people I dated I only disclosed to one of them that I had a mental illness. The reason is the dating hadn’t gone far enough that there was a reason to disclose. The one person I did confide in, I did it because she seemed trustworthy, and we had a relationship a for a couple of months.
So I guess my advice is you are better of not telling people about the illness before things seem like they are moving along to be serious. Unless it becomes a subject in conversation. But even then you can just say you don’t want to talk about it right away.
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Our first date was at a provincial park in the Rocky Mountains. I cooked burgers for us over hot coals and served them with homemade potato salad and some marinated vegetables. We hiked to a waterfall afterwards.
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Impressive. Good you know the location. Do you remember that year, month and day when you first met her too?
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She answered my online classified ad on May 25, 1998 (her birthday). Our first in person date was Jun 13, 1998. I proposed on Nov 21, 1998. We married Jul 08, 2000.
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You have that written down somewhere don’t you?
Perhaps tattooed?
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Wow.
My husband and I have different memories of first meeting,
I have no idea when our first date was, sometime in fall.
I remember the date of the day he said he loved me, because it was on New Year’s Eve.
Most the time I remember when we got married.
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