I want to meet someone new but im scared. And paranoid. Im afraid that ill just be used.
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I met my wife after being DXed and was open about the fact I have the illness. She married me anyhow and that was over two decades ago.
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Do you work?
I want to date but I don’t work or do anything really.
I guess I’m just dreaming of a better life.
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I found someone who also has sz
It’s important imo
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Full-time since 1997.
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Ok, I guess that changes everything. You are able to work.
I can’t work.
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I am not dating again unless I get a job
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There are days when I question if I am able or not. Gawd.
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My friends all date but they work full time. I am jealous of them.
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My husband was disabled and not working when I met him. I was still working at the time. I married him knowing he was dirt poor, and physically AND mentally disabled.
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I think it is very difficult. I go together best with men who has the schizophrenia as well. So it has been the last four years, it is just that we seem to understand each other better emotionally. Also I find that many people with schizophrenia are more creative, sensitive and spiritual. They attract me the most.
But then the problem that appears to me now, is my sex drive. I have been with 3 men with the schizophrenia and two of them were on antipshycotic meds, and that was very difficult for them to perform in bed. Which is sad. Because I loved one of them deeply. The last one had the schizophrenia too but has not been on antipshycotic meds in decades, and he was very good in bed, actually we had sex 5 times in one night. That is amazing. But unfortunately he was deeply insane.
Guys without mental illness are unfortunately not attracted to me, Im too ■■■■■■ up.
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@Speedy , My husband broke his spine in 4 places and was in a wheelchair / using a cane when we were first dating. Plus, he had severe depression and anxiety. He also had had a stroke and since then reading and learning are very difficult for him. But he’s a good man and I love him. I’m glad I married him.
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Jealousy isn’t a good thing man. You should be happy for them.
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I used to have this fear too. Until I met my SO. He is my forever person. There is hope, you just have to put yourself out there. Easier said than done I know.
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Thank you for sharing! Perhaps I should ask her out?
The only reason I’m not doing it is because I don’t see myself having a future. I have improved tremendously from when I got sick. But I’m still sick and I don’t see myself getting better.
You have a big heart. But society, with dating apps and brainwash people switch and discard partners like they are nothing.
I have a friend that dates all the time. He doesn’t want any relationship. He’s just in it for sex and to me, it seems like it doesn’t bother the women he’s dating. He sometimes dates different women the same week.
Sex doesn’t do much for me. I want to meet a good girl and have an emotional connection with her. Sex is secondary. Perhaps I’m old fashioned. I don’t know?
It feels like this illness makes me belong in the garbage pile. I know I sound negative and very harsh on myself. But that’s what society does to all us men.
Women have it easier when it comes to dating. Every woman I’ve met with a mental illness dates or has a partner.
I just wish that somebody, a doctor or therapist could give me hope. But that’s the opposite of what I’ve experienced. They told me that I’ve been sick for too long for me to recover. A nurse that works with psychotic people told me that she has never seen anyone recover from psychosis.
I wish there was some kind of hope. Finding someone. Having a future. Taking steps forward. Something to build from.
My sister told me that I have a big heart and I’m a good person. I don’t know if it’s accurate? I’ve lost everything to this illness. And once I got sick people spread rumors about me because I had my psychotic break in public.
I don’t care about people though. It’s just I don’t want to expose someone to bullsh-it and our harsh nature as humans. If I meet someone I’ll have to be honest about everything. I don’t know if a good looking woman, in her best years, could handle that?
As you see I have a lot of doubts and fears. I still want to experience love though!
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I’d date a woman with a little pudge who is older and not young, rich, and beautiful. Gotta be realistic. I’m getting older and more accepting of life with age. I’m just not looking at this current moment.
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Research shows that people tend to get better as they age. Not everyone, but many do. So there actually is still hope for you to improve even more than you already have. Don’t give up!
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Do you talk about anything other than sex?
I’ve been putting myself out there since getting on perphenazine. I’m hanging out with this girl Thursday. Problem is I’m not really attracted to her, but she’s growing on me. She has schizophrenia as well and I met her at day treatment. We text daily. I wish I was attracted to her. Idk how I’d handle a normie. I feel like I would like to know them first. There was this really cute girl that used to date my friend. She was cool as hell. So maybe normies aren’t all that bad. Schizophrenics from my experience are very accepting people. I’m also a lot less picky than I used to be. While at the same time talking about how I’m not attracted to this girl lol. Nah I’m open to dating a lot of different women.
Don’t let someone use you, just because you feel insecure about your condition. They won’t be someone who cares and you probably won’t like them for long, either.