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I’ve had trouble dating. I’m social and I have a lot of friends but seems like I can’t get a girlfriend to save my life.

I meet girls and its friendly. We hang out often, sometimes regularly for months. I ask her out but it’s always a no.

I met a girl who told me that she likes me but it turned out to be a one night stand.

I don’t like being a sensitive guy. I handle rejection and the short term relationships I’ve had well. I can always move on quick. But I do wanna connect with a girl. But I’m always scared to make the first move because I don’t want her to think I’m creepy. I don’t overdo the niceness. I just try to care. And im honest when I tell her I think she’s pretty.

I feel like some girls still act like guys have cooties. I’d like to think some guys have more cooties than me though lol

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My gf who tried to have a baby from me left me bcz of my sz symptoms soon after I was diagnosed. I gave up on romantic relationships and find them useless and added stress now with my severe apathy.

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There are more schizophrenic men who are single than schizophrenic women who are single. That is a fact. Schizophrenia affects more men than women. Majority of the users on this forum are men.

There is no such thing as luck. Only the probability of an event or outcome to occur and I am sorry to say that the odds of a schizophrenic man being paired with a woman or low. Schizophrenic men are at the bottom of the food chain as many of us schizophrenic men are unemployed, single and are receiving government benefits. Women who are schizophrenics have a higher chance of being paired with a normal, sane man that can support himself and the schizophrenic woman. Don’t get me wrong, there are the few schizophrenic women out there who are breadwinners of the family. Some, but few.

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Not everyone is interested by real sex, many live happily without a partner. Don’t stress or force yourself.

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I agree with this. I’ve tried the whole online dating thing (still trying!), and when I tell women that I have schizophrenia, they run for the hills. Just something completely undesirable about a man with schizophrenia for a normal woman. I mean, I work part-time, live with my parents, receive SSDI, and I plan on finishing my degree online in the near future. I think the biggest turn-off might be the living with the parents part.

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Depending on the familiarity of schizophrenia of the normal woman, she will definitely decline the advances from a schizophrenia man if she has heard from news media or have first hand experience with schizophrenics in a negative way. Even the word “schizophrenia” is scary to some women who have no idea what the disease is. You wouldn’t be able to work part-time and study for your online degree if you weren’t living with your parents. Perhaps when you are hired into a full-time job would you have a bit more success with women.

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I’ve completely given up on looking for a partner.

I’m almost forty, on government benefits, and live in subsidized housing.

I’m not bitter or angry though. I just learned the hard way that women don’t want a partner who has schizophrenia and is on benefits.

I put all my time and energy into my art and hobbies now.

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I feel the same way. Plus, I’m not in shape.

I cannot settle with someone I’m not attracted to physically and I bet they feel the same way.

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I have to agree with you on every point. We schizophrenics are the underclass in the social economic class pyramid tree. Unfortunate as it is but it’s reality. It’s almost similar to how those infants born into poverty stricken lives will not see their 2nd or 3rd birthday because of the situation they are in. They cannot change those living conditions but are born to them.

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I’m talking to a person I met who has my same diagnosis. We are getting along well. It has promise. Keep trying. There are 7 billion people on the planet. One of them is for you.

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I think your chances are still there, getting into a relationship is no sure thing but you are making friends and had no problem connecting with people.Groom well,had personality people liked and probably lower your expectation, you should be fine.

10% of men get 90% of woman love, while 90% of men had to fight for 10% of woman

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I have a boyfriend without a mental illness but I like people with mental problems,I feel better with people with similar problems

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But 90 percent of men are fighting for 10 percent of women in the first place. Most folk are attracted to alphas…

Some folk also have a stronger alignment with being a beta… I’m on of them. Like wouldn’t want to be a dick like that in the first place.

That said I do like it when I finally get my own life going the way I like… I wind up with ludicrous self esteem… And often catch the attention of some hottie. But that’s just the game though… That’s not real life. That’s humanity 1.0 sell out to vanity… Live for social empowerment (through social relations(through sex))… And breed…

humanity… 1 dot 0… Buggy and barely worthy of release.

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No I am just stating how lucky the 10% men are,and they are surely not schizophrenic in anyway.I am a beta male,I dislike it,I am shy nervous and not a people’s person.

I worked hard to try and achieved happiness,but I am glad you mention your life is going well now,I am happy for you and I believe your lucky and you did worked on something so that your life is going well

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yeah the alpha game is just that, a game. a competition for the trophy wife/s

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There is definitely an advantage being alpha.Few people liked weak awkward person.There must be something for a beta guy which he is good at…but it’s so good to feel happy and socially connected.Its a blessing…

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i dont know if im beta or alpha. I know I am genuine though and people like that.
Thats the key. Be yourself then you don’t have to try hard being someone else.
ive been told I have a magnetic personality. whatever that means

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Well I got to rewrite what I meant.My alpha=sociable,assertive,happy,it’s like your social empowerment.I am not describing alpha as a bully,attention seeker who stand out by stabbing someone…I probably misunderstand the word in the first place too

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That’s great,your comfortable and people liked you,you liked yourself.Thats all you need in the social part of your life.

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