That’s good I guess then. If someone looks at your profile does that mean they would want a message?
There are favourites. Someone just did that to me. Should I message them too?
The homosexual thing I am trying to put to one side. I don’t think I am that. I would not exclude somebody based on their gender, it doesn’t bother me much.
If someone favorites you, it’s a good indicator that they want a message, but are too shy to message first.
If you don’t care about gender, there’s always bisexual, pansexual, or asexual. But there’s no need to pick a label unless you want to.
I think, in our society, it’s a lot less socially acceptable for guys to be bi, so lots of bi guys end up calling themselves straight or gay because it’s what they feel they’re allowed to be.
I tried eharmony too. It didn’t work out.
Ok, I will message this person. I will see how it goes.
I have also favourited some people as well to see if they’re interested.
I guess that makes sense about the Bi thing. It’s a shame
There are people out there who like big women and men. I like men in all shapes sizes and colors
I met a guy in the China nonfiction section of the library. He was a nerd, ugly and a humanitarian. I was smitten 
Yeah great mate. I wasnt fat shaming, been out with larger woman in the past - its just a turn off when they deliberatley decieve and lie about it thru carefully shot selfies and on their profiles. Just sayin…
You mean you don’t like girls?
Sure. I understand. Oh. And I’m heavier than my profile pic.
I’ve messaged 4 girls, and have gotten zero replies back. I don’t get it – maybe I’m just ugly and sent an uninteresting message? Probably that. I haven’t dated since 2012, so my game is off. Guess I’ll stick with it, since I already paid to use the sites
@anon49063606 Good luck - i honestly wish you all the best. I just couldn’t stand the obsessive checking of email every ten minutes coupled with the impending dissappointment when no-one had contacted you. Ive said before - when im ready to meet a woman (and its not yet) - i will do it in person in a social setting in a bar after a few drinks - and not rely on the internet.
I used to be good at picking up girls in college at parties – I just needed to be drunk. Nowadays, I don’t drink like that and I’m so socially awkward, that meeting a girl at a bar just seems unrealistic. I don’t know, maybe I’ll try that if the online dating sites don’t work.
Yes im afraid im the same. Normally - sober - i dont say boo to a goose. I tend to go for the women that have already known me for a couple of years tho. I simply cannot be bothered to entertain the resposibility of a relationship now tho. As ive got older - ive become less relient on a woman for company.
Good luck tho mate.
good luck to you, too
Yet again more automated messages from people saying no to my messages.
I have done this for nearly a month now, and I have not even had a conversation with one person!
One person even favourited me and then refused my invitation to talk. What the ■■■■ is up with that?
If i were you - i would just go down the local night club and try and pull that way. Dating sites are a con.
I am going to have to agree. I have cancelled any further payments to the site now.
I am no good when it comes to going to clubs unfortunately. I have not been to one for 12 years!
Shouldnt really suggest it - but have a few beers beforehand and get yourself to a bar. Your in Brighton right? should not be too hard.
This is true, there is a lot going on. It would take a miracle to get me to a bar though. I also don’t drink which doesn’t help this much either!