I have tried it before but it didnt work out, now i feel a bit more confident again.
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Yes, i didnāt like it, too superficial for me. I prefer the old kind of dating sites, but anyway i have given up dating at the moment.
Bob Marley sang āNo woman no cryā and i agree
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idk why i signed up for it, figured maybe a little hope 
idk iām terrible at it
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Me too. Get the best out of it, now that you have paid for it.
Some people succeed on Tinder.
Good luck
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Is that the one were you swipe left and right based on how they look?
I think I signed up and checked it out a few years ago, but only for a couple days.
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Regarding dating apps I rate 2/5, didnāt get much interaction there and the ones I had were crap.
Could be better in UK tho
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Iāve tried Match, POF, Bumble, the facebook one, and a few others and now tinder, iāve paid as well and all failed, its not looking good
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if you are fat or ugly, chances are low
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I deleted it today, didnāt get any likes soā¦ I want to meet someone one day. I feel like women try to be friendly sometimes but I canāt keep eye contact for more than a split second. I only got to know someone when I was drunk earier in my life. I canāt drink anymore but if I did I would get lucky I know.
i should have done more research but iām going to try and use it anyway, my friend and i went to a couple of speed dating nights couple years ago and we might go back to that again, i figure iāll have a better chance now i have something interesting to say about myself.
@Ylajali I think too much alcohol might put women off,
Iām going out to a thing tonight at a bar but i doubt iāll meet anyone, my pal will be there and its all the people from my radio station, iām just going to try and enjoy it,
Iāve pretty much given up on finding a girlfriend. In real life they lose interest once I tell them I have schizophrenia and then I ran this dating website experiment and it proved to me that the chances of finding a girlfriend that doesnāt mind I have schizophrenia is next to zero.
Tinder kept asking me to sign in and forgot my details each time so I gave up with it in the end
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I wouldnt mention that until any potential friends get to know me, i try and focus on what is positive about myself and not what is awry
@Joker damn that sucks, i paid a six month thing, i thought the more i pay the better chance i have but idk, hopefully my profile will be ok, my pic is the best iāve ever had i think so fingers crossed.
I donāt think it matters. Iāve told women right away, and I have waited. The results were the same. Even my friends have drifted away and there is no romantic feelings involved with that. People hear āschizophreniaā and distance themselves, It doesnāt matter if it has been days, months or years.
I once waited a month and got to know the girl really well, then I told her and she freaked out for misleading her. I usually just tell them early on, I donāt want to waste my time getting to know them only to get rejected months or years down the road like in that example, waste of my time.
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I paid for 6 months on Match.com and that was a waste of money
My fault partly as I struggle to keep conversations going
It was kinda demoralising as well when someone gives you an auto no thanks, it blocks you and thatās before you even get a chance to know each other
So superficial
Many of the profiles are dormant anyway
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I did online dating years ago. In my experience, most of the men were only looking for sex, or didnāt want to get off the internet or phone and meet in person. And men who were much older than me would contact me, and then get angry when I said I wasnāt interested.
I mostly feel uncomfortable online dating, because I hate people seeing me and watching me. It kicks up my paranoia that they can control me or humiliate me, just by seeing me and figuring out my weaknesses.
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Headspace, man that sucks, maybe we should just keep it to ourselves then and just be careful with the meds and stuff, why give up a good relationship just for the sake of that? i would sugar coat it and say that iāve had some depression in the past or something (not as serious) maybe that is stupid but as i say focus on the positive, schiz is a big negative, is like an hbomb in that situation.
@Joker i think you might be right, i bet most of the profiles are dormant but i can see who is online as well so iād go the most recent or whatever but still very difficult, i have only had a handful of conversations and that was mostly on facebook dating until i got swamped with fake chinese accounts
@Pandy i am sorry you had that experience it must be hard for some women on those sites as well, i try and be nice and not talk dirty or anything, my main priority is just meeting someone i like and whatever happens happens iām not just looking for sex, i wish women could know who were the decent guys and who werenāt but how the heck can we do that? lol
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Thatās so good to hear.
I know there are decent men out there.
I want to believe there is someone out there for me, but now I will be 49 next month, and for women over 40, itās very hard. Then add in the SZA, and well, like all of us, it makes it even harder. But I keep hopingā¦ if itās meant to be, it will be. Iām just not sure I can go online. Maybe Iāll wait until I turn 50, and go on one of the 50 and older sites.
Itās been hard meeting anyone, in general, because I moved somewhere I donāt like, and I have little desire to get out and see whatās around. AND I moved right before the pandemic. So itās been hard to see whatās around.
But again, I remain hopeful. Yes, I have this illness, but am I really that bad? (Besides what the voices tell me when I have breakthrough paranoia.)
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No, I am honest to a fault and I expect the same from my partner. I wouldnāt appreciate it if she held something major back from me. Iād rather be single than live with a ādirty little secretā constantly worrying sheāll find out and leave me. Iāve been single for a long time now, Iām kinda use to it.
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well i think i can choose what i am honest about, there is nothing written anywhere that says i am allowed to just not disclose my illness āand why should i if its not causing much distress?ā if it was apparent that i was mentally ill then the person could probably tell anyway, why would i disclose something that would potentially kill my relationship stone dead?