In my mind you’re hotter then that
I’m very hot. I was just also a mess, and people could tell that about me. I did get propositioned, but I have no interest in casual sex so I did not meet with people who wanted that. The number of people who were interested in pursuing an actual relationship with me was four. But one of those was Mr. Star, so it worked out.
I did have one guy offer to buy my dirty shoes. That was the most awkward message I ever received.
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@Naarai. I have a friend who is 5’3” and weighs 400 pounds (28.57 stones). She’s doing online dating. She posts full body shots and then the guys ditch her for her weight anyway. It’s frustrating because she’s so honest about her size. She does need to lose though
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Come on, man. I’m your friend. You’re better than this.
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Im certainly not one for fat shaming. It was just so frustrating so find out they had been deceitful on their profile. it casted doubt on the date from the beginning. Been out with a couple of larger girls in the past and they do seem to have confidence issues.
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You have to remember that dating is all about the “connection”…regardless if an illness is present or not. There is no need to bring it up initially because you don’t want to let it define you. Go into it without even thinking about your illness. That is something that you bring up at a later date, after they get to know the real you. If I was really into a guy and later found out he had SZ/SZA, it wouldn’t matter to me as long as I knew he would never harm me. If I found out on the very first date, I’m honestly not sure how I’d handle it because I haven’t had a chance to know the guy yet and I may overanalyze him and not give him the chance he deserves. Stay focused and confident in the great things about yourself and you WILL find someone! Everything takes time! 
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I agree with this. I waited until the third date to tell Mr. Star, because he already liked me by that point. If I had told him before he got a chance to know me, things might have turned out differently.
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Dating apps really Works? Wow. It’s hard to believe!
One approach that I personally think is effective for men, is message a woman with something different than what every other guy is sending them. I have to admit I was guilty of not responding to messages because I’d get dozens of messages and almost every guy said the exact same thing. Instead, say something that sets your message apart from what every other guy is sending. For example, ask an off the wall question like:
“I’m curious…If you were an ice sculpture, what would you be and why?”
(OR)
“If you could go back in time and meet one person in history, who would it be and why? (Jesus doesn’t count)”
Come up with some kind of question that will make her think and intrigue her, and see what happens! There are other approaches you can take with this depending on the woman you are dealing with. For me personally, if a guy tries a different approach than ever other guy, he will definitely get a response back because he’s already impressed me. I already know this is a guy I’d enjoy talking to, regardless if I was interested in dating him or not. He’s already cool people in my book! 
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Theres so many crap dating sites though. So much spam. So hard to tell the good from bad ones.
this is good advice. But I have trouble coming up with a witty icebreaker, so that’s tough. Guess I’ll just have to try harder!
You younger people are way too reliant on the internet.
Just go to a club where there are plenty of girls. Look around. Find ones that aren’t with men and ask them to dance. If you don’t have rhythm then only ask for the slow songs. Asking a girl to dance is easy. If she is into you you will be able to tell when you are dancing with her. She might even just try to kiss you.
If she says no or she is not into you move on to the next one.
If all goes well ask to buy her a drink and talk to her.
This method works. I have done it many times personally. But I did have a personality then. Now I am kind of like a rock and I am married and old as dirt.
You can try the internet too but meeting in person is much more personable.
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I’ve also heard that calling by her name on the 1st message helps, does it make a difference?
If I wasn’t fat, unemployed, and didn’t live at home, I probably would be interested in dating. I think hygiene is very important too.
At my age, I see dating/relationships similar to financial dealings/decision making. I don’t want to meet someone who makes me poorer and I’d expect someone to be the same. I also need sexual attraction. I don’t find myself attractive anymore. Even when I was decent looking years ago, I still had low self esteem. It’s just gone in the toilet. I need to be realistic. My parents tell me I’m not even close to being ready. I’d probably get my feelings hurt. I come off extremely lazy.
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(I’m including @anon49063606 and @Joker for this one.)
If her real first name is revealed, then yes.
The one thing I hated getting in messages was “How are you today?” Which is almost a rhitorical question because if you’re having a really bad day, it’s not like they genuinely want to hear about it. At least from my perspective, that question irritated me the most. But every woman is different, therefore it does make it hard to know what approach to use on each woman. As long as your message stands out, it heightens your chances of getting a response.
You could even say:
“I know you probably get tons of messages, so I’m going to try a different approach.”
Then maybe ask her 2 or 3 witty questions. I’ve found a few websites for you to give you some ideas. I can’t guarantee anything, but I am a VERY VERY difficult woman and it’s not easy to get my attention. But this method works every time with me. Happy Hunting!
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thanks for the pro-tips. I certainly could use them
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I had 32 views of my profile today but nobody messaged me. What do I need to put on my profile?
I don’t get it. There is just a picture and some stats on there. How can you flick through without asking a question?
How about
“I am a paranoid Schizophrenic who has no friends and I am creepy guy who will have defective kids who will end up the same way and make you ■■■■■■■ miserable for the rest of your life.”
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I might be a homosexual I am not sure. This must be why it isn’t working
Page views are a good sign. Lots of girls have been socialized to not make the first move. So if there are page views, it at least means they found you interesting enough to click on. Do you have a likes system on the site you use?
Being homosexual means you are only attracted to the same gender. It has everything to do with who you like, and nothing to do with who likes you.
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