Just curious, as I have had ZERO luck with it. And I’m putting effort into it – putting myself out there and messaging women. I think it’s a combo of my messages being boring/shitty, my not-so-good looks, and my boring profile. I’ve tried to fill out my profile as well as I can, but idk. I’m damaged goods, anyway. Once a girl finds out I’m schizophrenic, she ghosts me so fast lol. Anyone have any success stories?
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I’m convinced online is for sex only. Too bad too, it used to be a good medium to meet people.
U gotta find a social gathering with similar interests. GL with covid going on…
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I haven’t used them myself, but my best friend who is also mentally ill does. She’s had good and bad experiences. Most of the guys are just looking for sex
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I have never done online dating, never shall do it. I am more happy to be alone.
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At the end of the day, I am too. But I’ve been feeling lonely lately, idk
Yeah, a lot of girls’ profiles say like “not looking for hookups or friends with benefits”, lol. Must be a lot of pervy dudes out there. Too bad, it ruins it for nice guys. @anon99082702 @LilyoftheValley
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Met my wife through one over 20 years ago. Still together.
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Now there’s a success story I like to read. Congrats, man.
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My friend likes to text a while before meeting in person. I wouldn’t let the girls know right away that you have sz. I would wait until you’re meeting in person and she has gotten to know you and see you’re not dangerous
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I also have this fear as well, as it’s almost like a dirty secret that when you tell it, people just bail immediately - in my experience anyways.
The only ones I have had luck on are seedy, and just about the sex. What I was kinda hoping for was perhaps something more from it, but nope, just hook ups and that’s it.
It’s even worse online dating if you’re gay. There are 39 guys within 50 miles using Match.com, and they still want the same amount of money as if I was straight!
The main problem I think is a lot of profiles are dormant, and inactive. Depends where you go though.
Have tried all the free ones, and they’re no good.
OkCupid seems to have a lot of activity, but the people who message me on there are generally thousands of miles away, which makes it hard! They keep trying to get me to verify to send messages, so I must get round to doing that.
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I like to text/message each other for awhile before meeting up, too. But usually, a girl will ask about my occupation or living situation, and I just can’t lie to her. But I hold off on revealing my sz until it absolutely needs to be said.
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Try dating a mentally ill girl? Thers dating websites for mentally ill people. I even saw a dating website for intellectually disabled ppl, I dont understand how they understand sex without risks like STDs etc
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Yeah. I’m not sure how to handle that. Sorry.
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Actually, you could say you’re sick but you aren’t ready to talk about it
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I’ve tried No Longer Lonely and Special Bridge, and both are ghost towns. Match is my favorite, but I have little success on there. Plenty of Fish is very active, too.
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I let my wife know after the second week. Dumped out all of my skeletons.
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The first step is to update your profile.
You’re not a bad looking dude, but you need to post better pictures.
Go outside with a good camera and take like 50 pictures.
Find the best one and use it.
A lot of people are living at home that weren’t at the beginning of the year, so I don’t see why that would be such a turn off.
During these times, at least.
And you don’t have to disclose that you’re schizophrenic until you’re comfortable.
My husband and I had been dating for months before I told him.
Try to come up with something witty and cute for the questions.
We may be able to help,
What are they asking you on the profile?
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thanks for the helpful response. I mostly try to come up with icebreaking questions with stuff that pertains to their profile. For example, if they say “I like netflix/hulu” or whatever, I’ll ask something pertaining to that. Or if they like to travel, I’ll ask about that.
I just have trouble describing myself, since I’m really a homebody and kind of boring. I try to make it as interesting as possible, like talking about where I went to college, my hobbies, etc. I used to have a large portion of my profile pertaining to my dog, but he died, so thats a bummer.
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Sorry to hear about your dog passing,
That’s really difficult.
I think breaking the ice with something from their profile is a great idea.
Everyone on those sites struggles to describe themselves as attractively as possible.
You just gotta get creative with it and maybe, maybe do a little white lying.
I don’t mean straight up lie, but exaggerate the hell out of what you’ve got,
You know what I mean?
Especially with things like your hobbies, get detailed with it.
And it’s okay to be kind of a boring homebody too.
Other people out there looking for partners are as well.
Full disclosure, I’ve never dated online, but I hear my husband’s friends ■■■■■ about it all the time.
These are just some of my take-aways from it.
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