Joined a dating site

DX'd - Sz/SzA
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I have done it again. Someone at work told me I need to give it more of a chance.

I think it’s a waste of time and money, as I doubt anyone will want to be with me.

My plan is to stay confident though. I worry about having sz though, as who would want to get involved with someone who has this illness? Especially through online dating where there are a lot of people on the shelf. There must be better options for people that don’t include the hassle…

I guess I am worried about what people think, and this has stopped me meeting someone new.

Worth another try I guess. I am going to message some people and see where it goes.

Do you think this will work?

  • It will work
  • Nothing to lose
  • No chance

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I tried dating apps but never keep them running more then a few days. Maybe you have more luck then me.

How you’ve been lately?

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Same here. I have signed up for 3 months and can send 10 messages a day. I will give it another try. I don’t like this thing on profiles where people say smoking is a problem. It says it on most profiles.

Yeah not too bad @anon92220549 I am looking to do some studying to try and do something useful with spare time.

What about you?

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You need a girlfriend bro lol

She will fill your free time

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I think they are worth a shot.
I tried them and got some good experience out of them.
Social factor and also I got a one night stand.
I like it becuase there’s such a range of things that people are open to on those sites from just frindship to just sex to longer term.

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Tried a couple of sites over the years - but found them full of deceit and full of headshots of woman who when turn up are thirty stone overweight. If im gonna find a woman - it will be in person in a social setting - but im not ready yet.

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I recently signed up on a couple online dating sites, as well. I’m nervous about messaging people though, my social skills aren’t the best. I’m also worried that once I tell someone about my illness, they’ll go running for the hills. Girls around my age aren’t looking for a jobless, friendless guy who lives with their parents

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I have similar fears. I messaged people this morning and most of them have looked at my profile and not emailed me back. I actually have a picture of me smiling too so I don’'t think that’s the problem.

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I have trouble even trying to break the ice. I think I’ll do that once I get a job and my own place

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I just had my first reply to a message

Basically said piss off and ask someone else as I am not interested.

I don’t understand why this person even bothered to reply. How are you supposed to know someone unless you actually talk to them?

She has left the conversation as well, so I cannot even reply to her.

This seems pretty shallow. I don’t see this working out.

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@Joker At least they looked at your profile so you must be pitching your messages right. I think some people must get bombarded on dating sites so they don’t even register some messages. I’ve just joined Match.com. Giving it another go. Nothing to lose. Might meet someone on there I would never see in the bars I frequent.

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that sucks, man. I haven’t had any luck, either. Of course, I’ve yet to actually message anyone :roll_eyes:

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All I did was send the same message to people who I was interested in talking too, asking if they want to chat and see how we get on.

I have cancelled the payments to the site. I don’t like it. I might try a free one for a bit instead.

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Daring sites never worked for me. I always end up dezaxtivating the service after a couple of days. I get paranoid

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welp, I’m 0/2 on not getting messaged back by anyone. I think I’ll message a few other girls, then call it quits if I don’t get a response. I’d like it if they messaged back, even if it was just telling me they weren’t interested

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i just got off the phone to my sis, i thought she would know loads of girls but she doesn’t she said i had a better social life than her and so she doesn’t know any single women like that,

i said i’d like to go into town soon bc i’d probably get more luck going out to a nightclub but i am a little scared but a little more confident that before lol

that being said i was texting a lady a couple days ago but she has gone quiet :frowning:

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I tried match.com and only had one person interested.

I paid too.

Then I had better luck with pof and oasis and they are free go figure.

I met my boyfriend on oasis.
We have been together two years.
We might be breaking up but I love him very much n he is thoughtful and a great man and I find him attractive too.

I tried e harmony and no one there was interested either.

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I met my husband online. It works!

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no…you’re right. most women are looking to be taken care of, with the exception of many unattractive women who have mental illness and maybe would trade living in their own parents basement for your parent’s basement, because of their own need for companionship.

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I met Mr. Star on OK Cupid. My friend met his wife on Coffee Meets Bagel. It happens. I spent a lot of time not getting messages back, or having people be very rude to me. I actually only got four dates out of several years on dating sites. But it only needs to work out one time.

I had to spend a lot of time single, and learn about how to form healthy relationships with friends before I was ready to be in a romantic relationship. I used to have a lot of trouble with boundaries, and it led to unhealthy situations. The most important part of a relationship for me is communication that is open, honest, and effective. But I don’t really experience sexual attraction the way others seem to. Maybe if I did, looks or chemistry would rank higher on my list.

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