I would agree with you for now. I know visceral fat is def unhealthy but it does beg the question, if u are overweight, are u more likely to have visceral fat? I would have thought maybe yes, but maybe following a healthy diet and u don’t idk.
and about subcutaneous fat, I do wonder if it is excessive if that is bad,
I have read in the past something about adipocyte hypertrophy where fat cells extend in size and how they become inflammatory which is unhealthy but idk the context of where that would be in the body if it is visceral or subutanous or both etc etc…def an interesting topic to study further
if I discover an interesting insightful article on it in the future ill post it here
It generally depends on the shape of your body. If you’re fat all over, arms and legs and such, then even with extra, it’s probably not dangerous. If your fat is primarily in your belly, with skinny limbs, you’re more likely to have high visceral fat. It’s also a sign you might have high cortisol, which is stressful for your heart.
It also might be a case of we like people in the same category as us. Most people on this site are fat. It makes sense that they would be more interested in dating other fat people. For both the reason @anon90843118 mentioned of feeling less self-conscious around a bigger partner, and because it means interests are more likely to line up.
Your preference for beauty is just that-- a preference.
My preference happens to be a person who can make me laugh while also being kind-hearted-- I find those qualities to be very attractive in a mate. With that being said, I do not discount looks either-- they are just of secondary importance. Still important, nevertheless.
I don’t believe there to be insincerity in the posts that say looks don’t matter-- there are some whose preferences also allow for other factors to supersede physical beauty.
As far as people with disabilities goes, I agree with @Ninjastar’s statement:
Not to say that every person with a disability cares only about those qualities, but rather the importance of looks may take a backseat for some because those aforementioned qualities are important not just in any relationship, but absolutely so when disabilities are on the table.
Yes, that’s what I’m saying. Both your preference and mine are valid preferences, and there’s nothing wrong with them. My preference for beauty over personality is just a reflection of what I appreciate in the world, and is just as good as prefering a particular personality. Neither makes you more mature or correct.
When it comes to whether or not people with disabilities are less particular about other’s looks, I don’t see that at all. The most particular people I’ve met when it comes to physical attraction have all had mental illness.
@anon22322466 I take back my previous statement if I can please. Even if I was drunk I would not be able to pull someone more good looking than me. It is what it is.
I know a woman who is my age, (59), white-blonde, porcelain skin, red lips, bright blue eyes, a little bit plump (the way I like them), drop dead gorgeous, and who is attracted to me. I would, under normal circumstances, be hot under the collar for her, except for her personality. She is very loud, crass, vulgar, and “in yo face”. And I cannot abide her vulgar personality.
She is a self admitted former crack addict of 20 years. And I have no reason not to suspect that she still uses. And she drives a brand new, shiny black Lexus on a hairstylist’s salary. Why do I suspect she’s dealing the stuff? No, I’m staying far away.
I used to be unhealthy skinny, but now I am kinda heavy, but wear it quite well. I have a bit of a belly now, but I have broad shoulders and it doesn’t really show that much unless I turn sideways and look a bit stocky.
I am not too bothered, but it does concern me that the trend in this time is to be thin to be beautiful. Kinda makes you really self conscious about your weight.
I personally don’t mind if someone is over-weight, as it’s not always the persons fault.
Take people with SZ for example. Some AP’s make you put on A LOT of weight, but that isn’t the persons fault, and I am sure there are numerous other factors out of someones control.
I would take more note to someones personality.
But yeah, in todays world fat is not considered beautiful by people who consume mass media representation of beauty. That doesn’t mean we’re all dragged into an unrealistic expectation that we’ll marry whatever celebs people follow now…
Weight has never been a factor one way or the other in whether I find someone attractive. Just speaking for myself, I think I look better with a little extra, though, lol.
I would posit that carrying around some additional avoirdupois is not attractive to most of the population. If it was, you’d see the majority of pr0n actors carrying some extra pounds and a lot more overweight characters on TV. They are exception rather than the rule, which tells you what most people want to see, or rather, NOT see.
I can’t tell the difference either, you look great in both pictures tho . You could be proud of your looks, there’s nothing wrong going on, at least in my eyes.
Regarding the overweight topic, people who feel attracted to people with more weight could be due to social issues for example. There’s a lot of factors that could explain one’s attraction towards overweight people.
In my opinion there’s nothing sexy about diabetes, atherosclerosis or any disease related to overweight. Although the personality of each person should be above any physical trait. With that said nobody is perfect and even the fittest and most prettiest people alive have flaws too. So personality have to come first in my opinion.
. You could be proud of your looks, there’s nothing wrong going on, at least in my eyes.