I’m heavier in the one with the hat🙂
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True, nothing sexy about something that increases ur risk of disease.
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Can be. Idk I guess it depends on the personality. This post is all just an excuse for me to get this joke in…
Yeah I’m into fitness…fitness whole pizza in ma mouf
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I have no shame. I like big women.
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I do think fat-fetishes exist.
I knew a guy who only dated abnormally large women. He targeted me and became borderline obsessed with me, and his friends were telling me it was because I was “his type”.
We barely ever spoke, we barely interacted, but whenever we did, his roommate had to listen to his analysis of the whole thing and have him dissect whether or not our interactions meant I liked him back.
He basically made himself believe he was in love with me, all because I’m fat and he likes fat chicks.
The first time we met, I only said “hi”, and afterwards he told a friend we have in common that he found me attractive.
He knew nothing of my personality, he knew nothing of who I was, and yet he liked me because I’m big.
If that’s not a fetish, then what is?
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I don’t think being morbidly obese makes someone beautiful. Just as being morbidly underweight doesn’t make someone look beautiful.
But a reasonable amount of weight can, in my eyes, make a person look more attractive. I likes dem curves.
Being fat in itself doesn’t make someone beautiful, at least not to me. But fat people can be beautiful.
Anyone can be beautiful.
I’m the kind of person who, the more I like someone, the more beauty I see in them. Personality does shine through the skin.
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Fat can be beautiful.
In the past i used to think that 120 lbs was ideal. Then years later i saw my photos and noticed i had body dysmorphia. I looked bobble head with my body looking stick think with my shirt hanging from my bony shoulders.
Now i think its okay to be somewhat stout. A bit on the chubbier side…more rounded. I dunno im happy aiming for more weight than years ago or lowering my goal of losing 40 lbs to 10 lbs… fir now.
A stand up comedian once joked that skinny women have no cushion bc theyre bony. Being fat can have advantages lol.
Being obese can be unhealthy though. Gotta worry about cardiovascular issues and stuff like thst. But such womrn can find mrn who like them thst way. Heavy men seem to care less about the weight.
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Idk that just sounds like typical friend zone douchebag incel behavior to me. I’ve had guys treat me that way and I am pretty conventionally attractive.
I think theres a certain level of being overweight that a lot of people find attractive. They call it dad bod I think. I had more luck with partners being slightly overweight than I did when I was in peak shape. Maybe it has to do with looking less intimidating than when I was muscular? At any rate at my current level of obesity not too many people find me attractive. I’m pretty heckin big, though.
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Fat can be beautiful too,if your realistic.I read news where they glamourised obesity,that’s not true/realistic
In my opinion it’s relative to who the person is. I have had overweight girlfriends and it never bothered me even though the media crams what they want to be beauty down our throat. It also is about being interested in the person instead of how they look the best that we can. I admit I find some women attractive, but you have to weigh it with if you get along with them. I wonder sometimes if people go for looks over substance and it contributes to divorce.
I saw a doco recently on feeders and large women. Even in that milieu the women found the feeders as men who exploited them. I’m not one to judge people but using anyone for your own kinks or benefits without taking into account their opinions is exploiting them.
As to beauty. Look at Renaissance art. Women who must have been attractive were fatter than what our considered ideal is. Back then it was obviously a different version of beauty. I just feel sad that the fashion industry makes these sorts of judgements on what is beautiful and there’s women who help make these decisions so it’s not just a male v female thing.
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Which part sounded like incel douchebag stuff?
It’s probably more related to health and status than the fashion industry. Fat bodies used to be related to health (lack of illnesses and parasites that make you thin) and status (very good access to food and no need to do menial work), and now it’s the other way around. Muscular/thin bodies are related to a lack of lifestyle diseases and health risks associated with weight and muscular/thin bodies are associated with an enriched environment that increases your willpower when it comes to eating and physical activity and with having more time available to spend working out.
I don’t really see the current beauty ideals changing much in the future unless the availability of food changes, or the attainability of fit bodies or consequences of unfit bodies changes.
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Yeah your probably right for the time. It was odd that late 18C used corsets and things to hide fat. I think that was the start of the decline. It’s still a valid point. What is ideal is bombarded to you in the mags and on ads. I think your on the right track but it’s still an industry that guides values. Who thought up and promoted ’ Heroin Chic’? That exceedingly thin look really was painful and not available to most people.
I still find cute/sexy in women with totally different body types. For me it’s not such an issue but symmetry has a lot to do with our desires when it comes to features and such.
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I think the beauty industry just amplifies what is already there and sometimes misleads us as to what the actual ideals are.
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It’s a fair point but I think that the way media works it plays a much bigger role. A reason advertising works and is so distasteful. I think you have a much more egaltarian mind than me if that is the word. I’m far more cynical and my background was literature and communication as well as menial jobs.
Advertising and things like television have a pivotal role in what is cool and desirable and we all buy into it. It’s too hard to escape it.
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Yes, I hate advertising, but I don’t think it plays that large a role in our beauty ideals. I think it plays a larger role in our perception of other people’s ideals.
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It’s probably splitting hairs but can understand your position. From what i’ve seen it really does dictate a certain politic. Even media like Movies and TV might not dictate ideals but they promote them. That can become unhealthy if that is all your diet. Your educated and from a certain country etc. That kind thing really can make a difference. If it’s a debatable difference is probably our contention but I’ve seen enough for me where it really can make a huge difference.
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Thing is, I’m not.
I’m cute, yes, but sexy, no.
And to find me attractive after a ‘hi’ just because I have the right bodytype raises some red flags in my mind.
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