It isn’t quite as cut and dry as that. Visceral fat, the fat on your organs, is dangerous for your health. Subcutaneous fat is really not so much. And wildly fluctuating weight is much more dangerous on the body than a higher stable weight. When I yo-yoed between 135 and 180 every few months, my doctor was concerned. Now that I’ve been 210 for over a year straight, she’s much happier. I also have better blood pressure.
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Forgot to add: I still turn plenty of heads.
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I just wanted to look up how in NHS above bmi of 24.9 is associated with increased risk of certain diseases as I have read and learnt that before.
Very interestingly I came across this article
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He does. And by the time I’m old and ugly, I expect I won’t mind that my partner is too.
I expect a lot of people here think I’m shallow for being so clear about my preference for beauty, but that’s exactly why I’m posting it. There’s something insincere about how discussions on these topics always end up with a choir of “looks don’t matter” voices.
I don’t think it’s insincere. I think people with disabilities generally tend to be more focused on things like how supportive, affectionate, and good at teamwork their partners are, because those are the qualities that draw them in most. There’s nothing wrong with having preferences either way, but I think that’s why conversations on here focus more on qualities like sense of humor and kindness over looks. It’s just that the preferences of this demographic tend towards other characteristics…
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I think a lot of people are keeping quiet about their preferences because it’s not acceptable to be honest about how much looks actually matter.
Based on all the mentally ill people I’ve known, I have had no indication that looks matter less to them.
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I’m with you @anon9798425 ! Looks are pretty important to me too.
The good thing is beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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Looks matter to me in the sense that I would not want to be with a guy more good looking than me. I would feel ugly. And intimidated. And like why is he with me wen he can be with someone else more good looking and confident than me. I’d feel there is a alternative motive which has happened to me and it is disgusting… Just to exploit me basically, use me and not really care
Doesn’t mean a good looking guy isn’t attractive to me thou.
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@anon90843118, you are good at art, which suggests a creative mind. You could probably pull someone that you don’t “settle” for quite comfortably, with that kind of cleverness. What keeps him around is your confidence in yourself, ultimately.
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Interesting article. I wonder if you would find the same results in a country without socialized healthcare. The article suggests the reasons for lower risk of death could be improved medical interventions for weight-related diseases.
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sure. actually Im not attracted to skinny partners. I guess I prefer a medium build, but as long as they have a cute face, I don’t mind a little extra weight.
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I think a lot of people also have preferences for bigger people, but our society has treated their preferences as a fetish rather than a preference, so they’re less comfortable admitting to it.
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Mrs. Squirrel is a bit hefty. I don’t care because she is FREAKING AWESOME in all the ways that matter to me. I steadfastly maintain that women are like roads: More fun to go fast on when they have lots of curves. There’s no other woman I’d rather have hiding my nuts, thank you.
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I prefer my girls thiiic or overweight but not obese
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I’m morbidly obese according to BMI, but I have a decent amount of muscle so I’m not sure if I look as fat as I think I do. I think it depends how the person holds it, how confident they are, how they dress, etc. There are some people with a healthy bmi that have absolutely no muscle tone and look weirdly fat. If that makes sense.
If you’re healthy, medically speaking, a little extra fat isn’t really that bad. Personality is so much more important.
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Yeah, that’s pretty awful… you shouldn’t feel insecure with an attractive guy. To him, you could be way more attractive than other girls.
haha yeah if I was drunk! loll. (which would never happen since I don’t drink)
yes this is probably true for most people, good point @anon22322466
that is what I am working on …
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Yeah I agree with you there, and I’m pretty sure I’ve seen it happen too.
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Thanks Treebeard,unfortunately I would not feel that way if that was the case and that would come across in my behaviour and it would make me unattractive as I d always be stressed thinking ooh am I good enough.
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I’ve been fatter,
I’ve been thinner.
And I definitely felt better, more attractive and happier when I was thinner.
That doesn’t mean I don’t find people that are overweight unattractive,
Its just a personal preference.
My husband and I both stay in pretty good shape and neither of us are super thin,
I think we’re both attractive and our peers would agree.
To answer the question,
Yes, I think fat can be beautiful.
It just depends on a lot of factors.
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