I would imagine it’s still a date I guess he can put whatever label on it he likes 
- met on a dating site so to me it’s a date even though we’re both calling it meeting up as friends.
It’s all relative. You take things at your pace and sort the wheat from the chaff!
Dating should be interesting and fun. You should feel butterflies. You should be turned on!
Sometimes we make it about more than it is. That isn’t a problem unless you let it…
Enjoy it for what it is @anon80629714! It’s about learning about other people and whether your compatible!!!
Eh? I don’t get butterflies and I’m not sure I was turned on but I like him cos I am starting to feel I won’t have to put on an act. Or put make up on or make efforts that make me uncomfortable.
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@anon80629714 I think you should see it as just being friends.
It is better that way.
After all a gap in expectations between you and him can create problems.
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We have spoken we both think it may go somewhere but we want to take it slow and he says to start as friends.
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That’s how it works…We are all different and we’re all the same!
Just enjoy the experience and do your rules. Do what makes you comfortable…but still. I’d say butterflies exist and so does attraction. You want to end up with a person your attracted to. You like to desire them and that is cool!
My ex mrs…she was a looker! I still think she’s pretty and I wouldn’t say no either though we’ve been divorced for years…
Attraction is important!
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I thought that I didn’t feel anything when we met but talking to him more over phone and text is making me feel attracted to him without even seeing him the second time which is odd. Not sure it’s healthy.
People grow on you…that is cool. It still helps if you desire them. Attraction and stuff makes a huge role in human interaction. Then there’s the …can I live with this person 24/7. That is really important too.
Then there’s sex. You want to be attracted to a person because you desire them. It’s important to love and lust for people. That can be very important.
It sounds like your starting…that is cool. Figure out what is on your list for a relationship and move from there! It’ll all work out…if it doesn’t…plenty of fish in the sea! Do it your way!
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I don’t think that’s odd. If he is a good match you should be attracted to his personality too. I’d take it as a good sign.
As for the non date date, I’m lost in the world of Symanentics people play with each other these days. In the old days if you saw someone you were going steady and then got married. So simple
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This is really making me think. Should I call it off cos I’ll be wasting his time. I’m constantly looking at my phone for his texts they just light up my day but maybe it’s not enough.
If you think you’ll have fun/enjoy seeing him keep doing it. That’s why I’m still married after 14 years
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We walked 14,000 steps that day I think it said something to me 
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Maybe you need to kiss him to find out
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I wish you success with your friend.
I don’t think it’s a date, you are just friends.
It is good to have friends.
@anon80629714
You can try to find more friends as well.
Friends are a really good thing.
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Let’s get past the hug first 
awkward!!!
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If that’s all this is I’m happy to gave gained such as an amazing friend 
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I could use a Friendster app here in Portugal as after a year I still know no one
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LOL don’t worry about his time. That’s his concern. Worry about yours. If you want to chat with him, go ahead. If you want to meet him, go ahead.
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The other day he said I think too much of him and I freaked if I’m obsessing over him. So thought to calm the texts down. What he meant was he thinks I think too highly of him not too much of him. That misunderstanding is cleared. Thank god im not too obsessed
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Is this a new guy or is it the same one you were dating a couple of month ago? Sorry, if I haven’t been keeping up to date.