Should I carry on seeing him?

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I really want to see him again. He seems genuinely nice. And exactly what I would like in a partner. But I’m not sure I’m attracted to him in that way. Not completely. Not when I first saw him. As I spoke more and we talked more he just seemed prettier. But I’m not sure I’m comfortable or going to be on a psychical level.

He’s shy. I’m shy. We’re both shy. He’s super smart and the first few mins I couldn’t connect or understand what he was talking about. So I changed the subject and I was honest after that I couldn’t understand the technical talk but I genuinely had fun. He said he wasn’t even feeling that awkward talking to me. We walked so much … like 3 hours!!!

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When I first met my husband I thought he was super ugly and awkward. Was not even kind of attracted to him physically, but he was funny and kind so we kept seeing each other. Then one day I realized he had grown on me and I now find him very attractive. :woman_shrugging: So, I don’t think that’s a reason to not date someone. Especially not if it’s not that serious yet. Give it some time. He may grow on you.

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Ish, you have a long pattern of almost getting into a relationship and then bailing out when it starts to show promise. Give this guy every chance. People can grow on you.

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Yes I bail out mostly cos they talk about sex before having even met. He hasn’t mentioned it in that context in the 4 weeks that we’ve talked.

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This guy might be what you need.

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Ish this guy sounds good. Basically it sounds like he doesn’t just have one thing on his mind.

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People grow on you, in time they look better and are a person you want to be around. That is the trouble with dating sites , everyone looks at those little pics for a second, and decides they are not for them.

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What would it hurt to see him again?

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If you don’t dislike him, and he’s a decent type fellow, give it a shot.

Spell check really wants me to say “give it a shi.t” but not that, no, shot, shot. Lol.

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Sounds good to me! I find attractive nasty people very ugly and sweet intelligent people who aren’t that great looking attractive. In the long run we are all wrinkly anyway. Go for the attractive inside. It’s way better.

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Heck, just get it over with and marry the guy. We’re all great, we’re all rotten. That’s what you will have.

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I figured it out. He’s gay! I win a prize!

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Keep calm and date on.

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It feels like this @led as though when we talked and felt a connection, when I saw he wasn’t feeling as awkward to me as he initially thought he will , he just looked beautiful and I felt happy he was able to talk to me. Even though I couldn’t understand some of it at the beginning but I said some of the stuff he says is too intelligent for me to comprehend so I changed the subject “do you like Disney?” He said I know that’s weird but actually I love that. And the fact he likes knitting.

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Sorry I go on about it but I am a serial dater after all, not for long hopefully.

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It sounds like there is at least something there. So my opinion would be that it’s a good idea to continue seeing him.

BTW Welcome back Ish!

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Thank you :blush: ycugyfu

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Your very welcome, ish. I’m really not sure what ycugyfu means, it’s not on urban dictionary.

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Haha there’s a word limit and I didn’t know what else to say :see_no_evil:

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