Is this similar to someone that uses alcohol or (insert drug of choice) to numb/block out painful memories?
Who are you? You just need to stop. Iām done with this.
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Iād hate to have to tell you what I slip on (at least on this network of morally perfectionistic jurists, regardless of what they may be doing when their ājuriesā are otherwise occupied) ( 
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But thatās the point. Everyone is free here to get off the bus whenever they want. (I have reached my stop. Toodelooo.)
Goodnight, guys. Iām going to bed.
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@notmoses just another case of the blind leading the blind.
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I didnāt read over every link but I assume the gist is āyou canāt put the past behind youā. BUTā¦you can learn new behavior and learn new reactions instead of (I think this is the phrase you used, in another context though) the same old knee-jerk reactions that people learned as they grew up. You can change behaviors and youāre ways of doing things.
Grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change
the courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference.
Sorry, I just had to throw that in there. But a little apt, isnāt it?
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Yes; and the same securities analyst who bagged that prayer from Reinhold Niebuhr for his book, Alcoholics Anonymous, seemed to understand way back in the '30s that acting oneās way to changed thinking and emotions is as effective as thinking oneās way to changed emotions and behavior.
Im not againnst you man im all for rational thinking.
Iām doing both all the time. Thatās a good article about the Serenity Prayer. Reminds me of the time after a meeting when we were all standing holding hands in a circle and they called on me to lead everybody in The Lords Prayer. I had chanted this along with everybody else a thousand times and I had led the groups in it before a couple dozen times. But it flew completely out of my head and I couldnāt remember a word of it. I stood there in silence, totally embarrassed.
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38 years in AA; 31 sober. I have forgotten the damned thing at least a half dozen times.
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Only half a dozen? Iām jealous.
Pixel.
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In public. (15 f-ingā¦)
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Lol, now I donāt feel so bad.
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mim130 yeah we need to forgive others and even ourselves, not always easy though but freeing if done. I think thatās part of recovery Iām just not there yet. I find it difficult to forgive myself and easier to forgive others.
Iām like this too and also I find it too easy to blame myself when it was definitely someone elseās fault.
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the past gives usā¦learning 
the ā now ā gives us ā¦wisdom 
the future gives usā¦ hope. 
take care 
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STILL jealous. You probably also remember when to shower on your own. Jerk.
Pixel.
If I could hit the like/heart button seven times, I would.
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WTS, yeah. When to get up from the seat at the Game board, ehhhhhā¦ sometimes. 