I’ve always been someone with high self esteem and very secure about my looks,
But recently it’s been different.
It’s just my looks, I feel fat and unattractive, it’s terrible.
I also have a voice that always tells me I look old, tired or just pain ugly.
It’s all really starting to get to me.
Can anyone relate?
I know I should be in therapy, but it’s just so hard for me to break away from the house.
I had a voice like that.
In therapy, I learned she did that not to put me down, but to mirror what people had said to me, and what I was worried people would say to me, so I’d be better prepared to handle it if/when it happened.
I’ve been struggling with the same thing for the past few years. My physical deterioration is obvious. Thinning hair, gray, bad teeth, wrinkles, etc. Everyone used to tell me how pretty I was. Now, they mostly dont, with the exception being males who are trying to make me feel pretty.
It just sounds like the voice is getting to you.
I hate my appearance too. Im sorry you’re struggling with this. Life is so much harder when you feel insecure like that.
You’re beautiful. Don’t let ny voice make you feel different.
I think you’re pretty @JustTrish. I’ve seen your pic before.
The pic was from 4or5 years ago. Thanks. I won’t put any more recent… I used to like the way I look. It’s tough to not feel pretty.
Ignore the voices if you can.
Just because we age doesn’t mean we become less beautiful.
Have you tried affirmations in the mirror to help with self esteem?
I agree with @GoldenRex. I think you’re still beautiful. Aging doesn’t take away beauty. It just changes it. I think affirmations might help you too
I’ve lost track of messages… sorry.
Thanks for the kind words. Kindness is priceless.
The main thing my voices tormented me about for nine years was my appearance. They mostly picked on things about my appearance that used to bother me but didn’t anymore. I also have a lot of pretty friends and relatives, and they said they were constantly throwing beautiful women my way because they hate me.
That’s horrible @Musicdance. I’m sorry you were told that. You’re very pretty.
Hell, I got called handsome the other day. It’s rare so I am still basking in the compliment.
Heya Mr. Gable, I know how you feel, the voices pick on my looks at times. Call me and tell me horrible things, breaks down my self esteem, twists my view of myself.
Makes it impossible to accept a compliment because I believe the voices and think people only say them to get something, or are making fun of me because they can’t really mean those nice things.
My therapist has me force myself to say a positive about my looks, it’s hard sometimes, and half the time I don’t know If I believe it. But it helps. I can at least say now that I’m not ugly
solidarity
Wishing you well.
You shine from the inside and that’s what matters. Our hearts are what make us beautiful.
Thank you so much! So nice of you!
I agree with @LilyoftheValley. I think you’re pretty @Musicdance.
Thank you so much! I really appreciate it and liked it when you complimented my photo the last time!