is weird, i used to look decent, and was in shape, and dressed well. i have these weird memories of being moderately attractive, but now i look nothing like that, i have to remind myself im no longer as attractive, being out of shape and balding haha. it’s weird thought process, it’s like my self esteem is still high because of the past and old memories. i guess i don’t worry about my new reality, but my self esteem hasn’t taken a hit, i just don’t look in the mirror much haha.
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Same for me eventhough since sz I gained 160lb, balded, got cholesterol pimples on my face, shower once a week, etc
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I’m alot uglier now too I gained a ton of weight and never shave or wash my hair
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After Seroquel, I gained 90 pounds in a year. Then with other APs I gained some more. I’ve since declared war on my weight gain. I’m on a diet and exercising. It’s going well. But it seems no matter how much I lose (so far 75 pounds) I still don’t look decent. It really bothers me. But I’ll keep trying.
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now that i cut my hair short and don’t need to comb it, i rarely look in the mirror, just once a week when i shave my face. maybe i will grow my hair out a little, but i don’t like to pay for haircuts, so usually i just buzz it, every 6 months.
i haven’t adjusted to my new reality i guess.
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the biggest problem isnt my self esteem but realizing that miranda, my crush, is out of my league. haha.
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Yeah, I was always proud of my body growing up and took good care of it. Used to play sports and work out with weights. And even up to my thirties I was in good shape. Strong, healthy, looked OK.
Now from sitting around too much
and being overweight I don’t look good. I hate to say it but I let myself go. I always worked physical jobs and that helped. And just three years ago I was walking every day and that helped me stay in shape a little. But yeah, too much R& R.
Oh well, I start the new diet this Wednesday. I’ll see how it goes.
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Depending on what year you’re talking about… I’ve gotten more attractive since high school though. Thank goodness. But right before I went into psychosis I was better looking than I am now.
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@77nick77 good luck with your new diet, im hoping to start working out more again this year.
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Thanks. Good luck.
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All my life, people have always acted towards me like they were attracted to me. Up until about 10 years ago that is. When my son died and I aged dramatically. So, if that tells you anything.
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I think some people look extremely attractive when they put on weight and age.
Just my two cents.
A lot of young women are attracted to older men, too.
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Yeah… me too. My face got chubby after I came out of the hospital a few months ago. I thought I got uglier after psychosis and all, but peeped my picture before it, and shoot I looked like junkie… maybe too much weed and I worked a lot, so that could it… I used to work like 16hours a day
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I look a bit better with some weight on. I was always skinny and didn’t like my looks but I got more confidence when I got on the pills and sorted out that paranoia. I weigh too much now but I’m trying to shed some more…So I think my looks improved!
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It bugged me so much when I got so near my ultimate goal weight that I still felt the same about myself as before the diet of 3 stone weight loss that I started eating too much again
Keep seeking
Keep strong
Find happy with yourself
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I feel the same and I’m only in my mid 20s. Sometimes I do see myself and think, Yh man, you still have it. But for the most part I don’t think anyone looks as good as they do in their biological peak, which I understand is meant to be early twenties and late teens.
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I think i look better these days eat healthy exercise every day, dont smoke or drink!
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I’m sitting feet away from my scale. I have it stuffed under the bed. I’m a little afraid of what it will tell me.
I really tried to stick in shape but my hunger is not being satiated and I’ve done my best but I can’t get more active easily so I’m really failing to right this ship.
I want to stay healthy so I don’t have more things to complain about. The whole world struggles with it, but I guess I just know how easy it used to be and now that it isn’t I feel like I give up before I start.
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When I started to transition, I could tell the exact moment people started perceiving me as a boy instead of a girl. I didn’t get harassed anymore, which is awesome! But I also stopped getting people buying me things, offering to let me cut in line, telling me I have nice eyes, flirting at the register, etc. I like how I look now more, but I do miss pretty privelege.
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People look less better as they grow older,even some privileged movie stars who earn a living depending on their look
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