As I have said previously, I tried to bring it to his attention. He called me a “mental piece of ■■■■” because of my mental health visit to the hospital. I’m not innocent here, I told him he is abusive hence why his girlfriend left him. I agree, I should not have said that. But needs to have a serious look at his own state of health. But no. Seems that he’s using alcohol to self medicate. Vomits every single day for years. But does not want to get it checked. Please don’t tell me he’s going to die. It has been my worst fear. But what I fear most is, my mum is going to end up having to care for him if anything happens. She told me if anything happens she’s gonna put him in a home because she won’t have the capacity to care for more people. I can’t believe she said that. I feel it is sad he feels the need the need to drink every day to be liked. His life revolves around his drink and work.
You cant change him, hes got to admit hes got a problem - or your just pissing in the wind.
That is sad
But he needs to hit rock bottom
Soon his drinking will interfere with his job
It’s just hard to see him completely not care of the consequences.
I think it has interfered already. He’s damn hard to live with when he’s not drinking, and even harder to live with when he is. I hate being around him and avoid him at all costs.
As much as I can obviously. I live on the same street.
I know. My twin brothers the same. Im an alcoholic, but i admit it. My brother wont.
Shame they cannot take people around a liver unit in the local hospital - and let them speak to some of the patients that are yellow. Bit of shock treatment.
I think sadly, your just gonna have to wait until he works it out for himself.
I think he knows. I think others have also tried to tell him. He just doesn’t want to be helped. It’s sad.
He likely also has to get hurt by the problem before he recognizes its a problem. The best others can do is keep their distance and not enable him.
It honestly feels like interacting with someone who doesn’t care for anyone but himself. He always boasts about his achievements. I just find that weird. I mean he got a promotion a few weeks back and before you know it, everyone knows what he earns including my aunts and uncles cos he’s phoned them and told them. I find that weird, maybe its just me though.
Also tells me how ■■■■ his salary is when I earn half that when I am working,.
He making enough to live on his own?
No. Cos he is in debt cos of his drinking.
Excellent time to toss his arse out. Move the problem toward resolution.
Sounds like he could be a narcissist
At least he’s displaying narcissistic traits
Maybe you should show him some youtube videos on what liver failure looks like. Its not a nice death. I hope hes having blood tests as well for it.
Before long - his liver is gonna start to be bloody painful (ive had it) - i hope that changes his mind.
Are you kidding me. My mum has just built him a space where he can play pool and spent ££££ for that… you won’t believe how much… she even drives him to the pub.
He’s gonna turn on me. I think I’ll just let him do what he wants. It really saddens me, and upsets me. But I have to think of my health. My mum doesn’t need me to get sick too. She has so much on her plate.
Your Mom has got to stop enabling him
Yes! You said it. He does sound like someone who has narcissism.