Yeah my mom was 39 when she had my sis. So my sister thought she was gonna be the only child. Then I popped out 4 years later and she still acts like an only child…but technically…I am the youngest of 2 
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What comes to my mind is that I wonder why girls aren’t impressed with you for hanging out with all the guys? It just seems that when women see the respect you get from guys, that would make them respect you too.
Maybe you could have your male friends or acquaintances “talk you up” to females and make you look good. If the women see the respect you get from men maybe that will break the barrier and women will flock to you.
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Sarad, I like your ideas. You are are special and you want to help people… 
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Do you start conversations with girls your age? Some girls won’t talk to you unless you engage first.
Slightly a different situation … but I find old people like me. Not to be with them but they try setting me up with their kids. But their “kids” don’t want a girl his parents like. It’s tricky lol
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my philosophy is…what you are seeking , is seeking you…
It’s all right!!
Stick around men!!
You can have exclusively male friends, you can do same sex marriage
you can do anything you wish with men!!!
You Won’t be the leader if I’m around !!
@Jonnybegood
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The time of day.
Anyways, how do you treat women? Maybe you are being rude or distant without realizing it. Maybe you are unconsciously being disrespectful somehow. Maybe corner some women and ask her what her impression of you is and ask her how you come across to women.The first step in solving problems is identifying the problem.
If your goal is to be the type of guy who are liked and accepted by all women you may be aiming too high. There’s those certain guys who are like that, who women instantly recognize as on their side and accept. But if you make a few changes you might just find that a number of women (but not all) might like you. But if your goal is to be some smooth-talking ladies man or player or whatever you want to call it, it might be wishful thinking that never comes true.
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I really think you need to work on confidence. Not attitude or putting on a front or anything like that, but just being comfortable with who you are, not trying to prove anything.
One thing I notice a lot about you is that you’re very fixated on what other people think of you, whether they show you respect, things like that. I can pick out your posts on the forum without knowing who posted them because they often center on this theme. This tells me that you may be very insecure, that you seek affirmation from people.
I started writing this before class, and while class was going on, I thought about your history of delusions that you were something you’re not - a deity, a different race - and I wonder if that left you with a sense of uncertainty about yourself, that you need to prove yourself, that you need other people to affirm that you are who you feel you are.
I’m just giving my thoughts, they don’t mean all that much. But I would suggest you just spend time getting comfortable in your own skin. Confidence is attractive to most people.
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Things are pretty much the same for me. I relate to men a lot better than I do women. A lot of it is that I’m socially incompetent, and my behavior sometimes hurts women’s feelings. I don’t mean for it to do that. For example, a woman might be saying to herself, “I just can’t get into this guy.” I respond by saying, “Yes, you’re probably right. I am hard to get next to.” In my own mind I’m being gentlemanly, but I think the woman takes it as disrespect to her. I do have tons of anger that get in the way of my socializing with women. I relate to men a lot better. One time I was in the cafeteria at school, and this guy says to me, “Hey man, I caught a seven pound bass the other day.” Then some girl breaks into the conversation with a loud “Who cares?” I’m thinking how much easier it is for me to talk to men.
Another thing, @Jonnybegood, talk to women from different walks of life and ages as well. When I was volunteering, there were 2 ladies in their 80s that were on the Tuesday crew with me. Their looks have faded of course, but I valued their counsel. They were the type of “grandmother(s)” that I never had.
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I’ve always looked at complimenting women as an easy way of doing a good deed for the day. My problem is that I have intense anxiety problems, and that anxiety usually comes out as hostility, so when I compliment a woman and then act hostile it is kind of like I am picking her up and then dropping her. I sure wish I didn’t have this problem.
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I think you’re expecting the wrong things from women. As a woman, I’m not likely to tell anyone, let alone a man, that he’s “awesome”, or “badass”.
What you need to look out for is a woman lingering around you. When I’m interested in a guy, I’m very shy and blushy, but I try and stick around the man I’m interested in.
And no, you’re not a failure or anything if you misinterpret what a woman means. Women are complicated creatures, pally. Keep an open mind.
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I think its completely my fault. But sometimes I’m in bad moods that make me angry and need to burn off some steam. But I understand why life is the way it is even if it doesn’t seem fair at times. Thanks for your post @catchme
and some of it is just shear bad luck
I think being a man is a bit more difficult in some aspects than people let on. You’re always expected to be the one who initiates everything, and that can cause a lot of stress, especially when you’re not the best at reading people. Women can be coy, and that’s confusing.
Good luck to you with the ladies! ^.^
I’m sorry people, I apologize for making this thread. I will not make more controversial threads…because they’re just for attention. @rhubot you’re right you can close this thread.
I disagree! Just saying.
I am not sure how i understand you. I can not think of a minute of me saying to a guy ‘wow you’re the man’ 
LOL etc
I can not even think of a second of me telling my guy friends, wow you are awesome 
I tell my brother nice stuff.
Or significant other.
What are you expecting?
That wasn’t what I was trying to say at all! I’m so sorry it came across like that! I notice that this kind of thing eats at you a lot, so I just meant to say, try to learn to be comfortable with yourself, and I think a lot of your distress will go away and you’ll notice better results.
You’re fine just how you are, no matter what cab drivers or people who pass you on the street seem to think. Just learn to believe that about yourself and I think a huge weight will be lifted.
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I’ve just had bad luck in life. It shouldn’t be so hard to be a man but it is for me cuz of my bad luck. No one said life was fair. But it’s bad luck from like 15 years ago that still affects me today. That’s life.