I have a general question and I think I am just looking for general confirmation to what I consider a healthy belief.
I was always taught, growing up, that masturbation is totally healthy. For men/women and everyone else. I always struggle with this because I have read conflicting things that it’s healthy and I also read an article that stated it had absolutely none of the benefits of physical sex.
I still struggle with this and my own sexuality.
Trigger warning:
I read in some article that in ancient Judeo-Christian times they thought that masturbation created demons. This just really messed with my head because I always hear my voice(s) when I masturbate either before/during/ or after I do it.
Thank you @Minnii for confirming what I consider a healthy belief. I was going to tag you in my post but I was worried it would’ve made you uncomfortable.
in my opinion, it is no different than your partner playing with your stuff. there’s the old “your forearm/arm will get greatly disproportionate” and other silly stuff. but I believe it is natural release, no different than natural release with a partner. rather I feel that it’s a lot safer because you can’t get any diseases, unexpectedly become a father, or etc. I don’t see much, if any, benefit from physical intimacy, to be honest. a lot of men need a release, and they find it unhealthy to restrain it. and sometimes it’s not easy to find a willing partner.
however, if you’re hearing voices that make it hard to enjoy it; then that might be a problem because a release is usually best under an atmosphere of pleasure. I really don’t know what to say other than try to talk to a doctor about that. hearing voices, in general, is not a good thing.
Yes, I have told many pdocs about this and also some therapists.
There’s a general consensus that the meds can only do so much, therefore I have to kind of cope with it on my own. Which is fine by me. I have been over-medicated before and my sex drive was practically 0.
Maybe you can try tantra, it’s a great way to feel pleasure and it’s sole intent is to derive the most pleasure from it, so you probably wouldn’t feel like you were doing a bad thing.
People know I masturbate but I didn’t start doing it until my family told me to, now everyone is accusing me of being a “sexual pervert”. Sex is intimate but masturbation is hygienic like exercise, for example males need to relieve themselves or else they will get pains in their testicles.
Well for me, sex is a much more better feeling, because it’s intimate and (hopefully) with someone I love.
Masturbation, which triggers my symptoms sometimes, is like what @dazedandconfused said, it’s more to relieve tension. It feels physically good, but perhaps not so much mentally for me.
that’s definitely not good, in my opinion. that stuff might really screw your mentality up and possibly make you think overly perverse. after watching it for a long time, everything might starts to sound like an innuendo. everything.
Yes - its healthy (lowers risk of prostate cancer if you’re male I think) - and most people do it. As long is you’re not doing it all the time and its not negatively impacting other parts of your life (i.e. impacting family or partners, etc.) its good.
Some of the science behind it:
Women’s masturbation benefits:
Read this on WebMD, article on Masturbation and relationships, etc.
Can you recommend a book perhaps?
