that is all i’m saying
Im not sure i follow. Youd leave him because you think losing your sex drive qould make him disinterested?
im talking about im happy to stay with my husband when im old and grey
im fairly new to the other relationship @Moon
Maybe really sit down and think about your intentions because id hate for you to hurt this new persons feelings simply because your husband isnt interested in sex. If your only reason for being poly is to quench your thirst, you could alternatively get a play partner so no one ends up feeling used.
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im not using anyone. this new guy is experienced polyamorous… he’s not decided if we’re till death do the 3 of us part… it’s a relatively new relationship
im in love but his son has cancer he’s got stuff on his mind @Moon
@Moon the reason we say she isn’t practicing polyamory is because she started seeing this guy behind her husband’s back and then when he found out she told him she would leave him if he didn’t agree to fo along with it.
Its fine to have multiple partners. It is not fine to manipulate somebody into polyamory.
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rubbish ninja he knew about this guy and i never said i’d leave him
where did you get that from?
Oh yeah yikes im not going to engage anymore because i cant stand the behaviors im seeing here. If someone did that to me, as an asexual autistic who has little interest in sex, id be absolutrly devastated, shame.
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ninja 
what was that? what a load of absolute misguided rubbish
you have the wrong sequence of events and that was pretty out of order
Continuing the discussion from Just wanted to say in a p g way that my husband knows everything now:
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yes and at which point did i “threaten to leave him if he didn’t go with the polyamory”?
it was about a week later and i planned to tell him my date which he was in agreement on ended in sex in the same couples therapy session
@supernova
Okay fair. You didn’t even have the guts to say you would leave. You just said you were going to continue sleeping with other people and then put the onus on him to leave if he wasn’t able to deal with it.
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he doesn’t want to leave
i don’t either
i don’t think i remember saying to my husband i was going to keep seeing people whatever he said
Oy vey.
You are just playing your husband and want sympathy.
Seriously,
You’re a little old to need to grow up so much.
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what???
get a life
He also doesn’t want to be poly. This isn’t consent. It’s coercion. It is the very cornerstone of why poly has a bad rep. Because of situations where one partner pressures the other partner into it to “save their marriage” that is far beyond saving.
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This is getting hostile. I’m just going to lock it for now. If you want it to be reopened, @Three please pm us and we will discuss it.