And they seem to have always been devout muslim to me. I’ve never seen them practice meditation or anything and now he’s claiming he found a statue.
And when he said he can put his dad on the phone to speak to me about his Buddhism, I heard his dad in background acting all confused and my husband said he doesn’t want to talk, he’s shy.
I don’t know if it’s just a delusion of my husband to claim his devout muslim parents are closet Buddhists (or that some of his family practise black magic) but all I know is if don’t want to be a part of their and my husband’s problems anymore
I’m tired of their drama. Whether my husband is delusional or not, it’s got nothing to do with me anymore. I want out of the relationship anyway. I’m tired of my husband’s strange beliefs. And this on meds - imagine how it would be off meds! Like that traumatic Friday night ten days ago…
(For those who don’t know - my husband just came out of hospital a few days ago after psychotic break ten days ago, and has not only got epilepsy but sz as well.)
So I can’t trust what he says if he’s delusional or not. All I know is I’m tired of his drama riddled family.
I mean, why would they practice Islam so much if they were Buddhist? Why hide it? I don’t even practice Islam at their level but I’m not Buddhist.
He also claimed some of his family practice black magic. A few weeks ago he wanted me to look up satanism on my phone because he thought some of his family - even his parents - were satanist. How absurd is that? It must be his illness…
All I know is that this has made me even more determined to leave him. I can’t deal with his and his family’s drama anymore!!
He is going through some psychosis right now. Bear with him. His parents probably pacified him by relating all religions have the same essence, love, so hence his confusion.
Jumping through religious delusions including black magic is pretty common at the height of psychosis. In a few months he’ll probably be embarrassed about it all.
Some, if not a lot of us have been there.
Using a psychosis for a break-up can be reason enough for most, but be conscious that many of us have been in the midst of madness.
Hasn’t your relationship been on a precipice for awhile? If you are incompatible then so be it, but appealing to those who have suffered with such delusions may not fare well.
I think you need to be a little more understanding.
Like I get that you’re happy to be leaving him but like… You do realize that this is a site, where people with delusions like that, come to find help and comfort?
Like yes enjoy your divorce… but maybe ease up on talking about how his psychosis makes him so unbearable to you
It sounds like you guys are upset with me or something
But you don’t understand my position
I’m not leaving him because he’s psychotic, I’m leaving him because my marriage has been suffocating
You guys forget I have an illness too that also makes me psychotic
So we feed on each other’s delusions
I’ve had to be a nursemaid to him for eight years and I’m tired
Plus you guys don’t know how much negative energy he had, even when he wasn’t ill. We had a lot of arguments and he barely had a sense of fun and humour
I had to do practically everything in the relationship. His frequent seizures made it hard for him to help me with things
It was too much for me dealing with 1) his seizures, 2) his sz, 3) my sza and borderline, 4) his family, 5) having to do everything for him, and especially 6) his negative attitude to life. Also 7) his history of violent threats made my safety risky
So maybe you guys misunderstood my position. Maybe I was just venting
It’s not like I’m just “dumping” him. It’s that I’ve been faced with almost no positive energy in eight years
How can I “enjoy” my divorce?? Do you think it’s easy to hurt him?? I may be happier with my decision to leave him but I’m also sad that I’m leaving him because I love him. Its just that I can’t anymore. I’m risking my own sanity and safety.
You’ve seemed absolutely overjoyed with the prospect of leaving him. I’m just saying it’s fine that youre happy about it. Like I don’t know your life or relationship so good for you.
It just becomes kind of a problem when your like going on and on about how his psychosis is “so much drama” and you’re poking fun at his delusions.
I just feel like it’s not good for a psychosis support forum.
I’m not poking fun at his delusions. I’m sorry if it seemed that way. Maybe all our delusions are absurd. I guess mine too. It’s probably absurd for me to believe my husband is going to kill me and his mother wants to poison my food or that she can read my mind. It’s probably absurd for me to believe people can read my thoughts through my eye contact with them. Or that the devil is trying to enter me through my private parts.
Yes we have funny delusions but it’s ok and part of our illnesses. I’m not suggesting it’s fun. It’s difficult to experience it. I’m sorry if you guys misunderstood me.
I guess I’m a stupid insensitive person. Ignore my callous thread if you want to. Lock it if you want to. I don’t want to cause trouble. I’m sorry if I upset you guys. I should know better - I’m delusional too.
I’m an ill person myself so I think it’s OK for me to say that I wouldn’t want an ill person as a partner I think the stress is too much. I understand. We are not designed for too much stress.
That’s sounds like a miserable situation to be in. I’m sorry. But I’m glad you’re resolved to do this for yourself. I agree with above that having an sz partner would be very difficult for most of us. It’s hard to stay healthy when faced with that many triggers every day.
Its already hard for normies to have a sz partner and on top of that yours have epilepsy. So imagine if you’re not a normie and have sza, borderline too… Its hell.
The latest on the situation is my husband ran away from his home because his dad wanted to phone ambulance.
His cousin and aunt were calling me and trying to get news from me. My husband on the phone was sounding very spaced out and then on the second call he was belligerent and rude to me and accused me of hypocrisy just like he did his cousin and other family. I cannot reason with him right now!
His family must deal with him now. It’s not my problem. Although I am a little worried I’m also beyond caring