You mean, to please ourselves.
We don’t need to worry about pleasing anyone else. That’s a huge issue. We need to care about our own self first.
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You’re being unrealistic. He has the right to his own personal space. Sure, he should respect your feelings, but you can’t control him. He is his own person and answering to you over every little thing is toxic. You can’t go around controlling others!
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I think people should understand that I have aspbergers
And Narcissistic traits is part of aspbergers
And people should learn to be with someone like me…
And do what I say and not do what I say
I always feel like nobody understands my being…
I need help
I hate it how my bf tells me that I’m too controlling and doesn’t know how to be with someone with aspbergers
Well yeah,
I meant that men use their d*cks as weapons to please themselves, and women use their breasts as cash grabs to please themselves.
Well it does sound like you’re too controlling.
And to be honest, aspergers is a tough diagnosis to live with, and it’s hard to deal with people who have it.
You have to help him learn by explaining what you’re going through, and by trying to better yourself.
Please stop blaming all of this on Aspergers. I have it too (in addition to SZ and being an addict/alcoholic). Bottom line: You’re a jerk. It’s possible to have Aspergers and not be a jerk, which is actually the root of your issue.
He’s try to tell me that it’s because I have aspies
And try’s so hard to explain to me that he’s not doing anything wrong
And I tell him he shouldn’t just blame it on my mental illness and admit that he’s don’t something wrong
And because of that I’m breaking up with him
Until he admits what he did wrong
He did nothing wrong. YOU are doing something wrong by trying to make someone feel bad over something natural. You should break up with him because you’re not mature enough to handle a relationship if you’re mad over masturbation.
If your mental illness makes you feel like he’s doing something wrong even when he isn’t, he should NOT have to admit to having done something wrong, and he SHOULD be able to blame it on your asperger’s.
You need to accept that it makes you perceive the world and social events in a different fashion than most people
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I can only assume you are joking when you say that. First of all it’s impossible. And if you want to know every move he makes that means you don’t trust him at all without any proof that he has anything wrong and that means you are the one with the problem, not him. An occasional masturbating session is more normal than not masturbating. It has nothing to do with respect.
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Male sexuality is highly sigmatised. Anything other than straight intercourse is frowned upon for men. I think this view is narrow minded and wouldn’t be the case for women. It’s a ‘men should be men and macho’ bulls*it thing.
I don’t trust him
He hooked up with my best friend we we were broken up
And he ended up confessing to me one day!
He broke my trust that day
He hurt me so bad
I also caught him watching porn one day!
And I caught him being really friendly to other girls!
(He wasn’t hitting on them,but he was talking to them)
I have trauma that he might cheat on me again when we were broken up and he had sex with my partner
Is there something up with me?
My ex-husband refused to masturbate, he thought it meant he was gay if he did.
Yes
I think you being so controlling would drive most people away not just men
It’s like that argument in the Friends episode where they are talking about being on a break.
How do I control it?
I can’t help it
I have aspbergers
What do you call this over controlling
Is it narcissism or aspbergers
Or is it both???
You can’t help having Asperger’s. You CAN help whether or not you hurt people. Having a mental illness means YOU have to work to control your symptoms. Your happiness is not your partner’s responsibility. If your mental illness is making you get mad at him over things, it’s your responsibility to break up with him and go to therapy to learn how to stop hurting people. He should not have to put up with being abused because you have a mental illness. And yes, this sounds like abuse. Men can be abused too.
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