Will it cause me not to find a GF or it’s just a myth,I do it once daily…
No, not at all…
Read this on WebMD, you’ll be fine:
I need to say something, and I’ll assume you are male, and I am female. Citing the article the sZadmin posted, the paragraph that says
Masturbation is only considered a problem when it inhibits sexual
activity with a partner, is done in public, or causes significant
distress to the person. It may cause distress if it is done compulsively
and/or interferes with daily life and activities.
pleasuring yourself daily would be considered compulsive. couples typically do not have sex daily. this topic irritates me because my exhusband had this problem, he did it 2 hours a day. How did I know he did it 2 hours a day, by looking at the browser history and what he was looking at for those 2 hours each day. If you pleasure yourself 2 hours a day, you aren’t spending time with your partner. Also, since I was my husbands partner, I could not satisfy his needs, as he could do this all on his own and didn’t need me.
I watched my now exhusband come up with hobbies and be put on medication to stop masturbating, it was more than I could bear. I think the stress caused my first sZ episode finding out I had a real live "to catch a predator NBC show’ candidate in my house.
If you did want to have a relationship, this is going to be a problem for you and your partner.
So, yes, it will and probably alreadty has caused alot of harm, you should seek help.
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another way to look at this, and when I came apart over this, it was explained to me this way,
you can only ejaculate so many times in one day, a man has to get it somewhere (same for a woman actually) if my partner has already ejaculated on any given day, there’s not going to be any of that energy left for his wife/partner.
for years I could not figure out what was going on, and the issue was, he had pleasured himself and was empty.
so, you’ve sentenced yourself to being alone, as you are leaving any partner you’d hope to be with unsatisfied and unhappy if you are doing this
I do not have a partner,I don’t do it 2 hrs a day,I just do it for once daily,it takes less than 15 minutes I guess?but I been trying nofap because I heard that if you do it even once a day it’s causing you not to have a GF,this really annoys me,it’s for me very difficult to control,just recently I abstain from masturbation for 9 days but I binge after that and do it twice in a day for once…plus I am a badminton state player(semi pro),I heard that if you abstain from sex or M you could excel in sport…I hope I can do it 4 days once instead if once daily…
well, I hope I explained the meaning behind “causing you to not have a GF”
if you are ejaculating on your own power, you are missing out on allowing a woman into your life. and if you’ve spent your ejaculate into your hand, you cannot share the lovemaking experience with another person because a human can only ejaculate so many times per day, I have to admit the first orgasm is the best, trying to have another is alot of work, if I’ve had one have to come back tomorrow to have one as good.
it was so bad in my relationship that he was only able to ejaculate if he touched himself, lovemaking was totally unsatisfying for me, the partner.
after I figured out what was going on from the internet browser history, he lost his business, his family, his two kids, we divorced.
another way to look at it is the dopamine rush in your brain, similar to a drug addiction, somebody told me to think of it that way. Replace masterbation in the alcoholics anonymous 12 step recovery process and find yourself some help
like step 1. We admitted we were powerless over ‘masterbation’ - that our lives had become unmanageable
I read in your last sentences there that you are admitting to step 1 of the 12 steps of recovery and probably a good idea to find some help,a therapist can help you I’ve met people who specialize in this… unfortunately…
I don’t believe what the sZadmin preaches, it’s not just ok, unless you want to live your life alone chained to your ■■■■■, people find out about this and label you a freak, eventually somebody figures this out and sees you. you want to have a family and kids someday I’m sure.
good luck to you,
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As the medical experts on WebMD say:
Is Masturbation Normal?
While it once was regarded as a perversion and a sign of a mental problem, masturbation now is regarded as a normal, healthy sexual activity that is pleasant, fulfilling, acceptable, and safe. It is a good way to experience sexual pleasure and can be done throughout life.
Masturbation is only considered a problem when it inhibits sexual activity with a partner, is done in public, or causes significant distress to the person. It may cause distress if it is done compulsively and/or interferes with daily life and activities.
Is Masturbation Harmful?
In general, the medical community considers masturbation to be a natural and harmless expression of sexuality for both men and women. It does not cause any physical injury or harm to the body, and can be performed in moderation throughout a person’s lifetime as a part of normal sexual behavior. Some cultures and religions oppose masturbation or even label it as sinful. This can lead to guilt or shame about the behavior.
Some experts suggest that masturbation can actually improve sexual health and relationships. By exploring your own body through masturbation, you can determine what is erotically pleasing to you and can share this with your partner. Some partners use mutual masturbation to discover techniques for a more satisfying sexual relationship and to add to their mutual intimacy.
That said - if you’re in a relationship and doing it for 2 hours a day - then that isn’t healthy.
Otherwise - I think the science is pretty clear.
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When I was in my twenties and early thirties I use to M 2 to 3 times per day when I didn’t had a gf. When I had a gf I would M about once every second day. When I was married I had inter course almost every day and M once to twice per week. I’m now divorced for nine years and I M once per day. Once per day is normal to my standards. Don’t worry about it. You’ll get a gf.
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this proves my point. you are now divorced, partner gone, and sitting around masturbating. thank you.
NO…choke that chicken till its dead.
The myth is that PORN, not masturbation makes it harder to find a partner. Famous pornstars are unrealistically attractive and it makes some people too satisfied to want sex. The internet “no fap” movement was actually created by men in order to make them hornier and have sex instead of masturbate.
You’ve read my posts, Im aggressive and a powerlifter, I jerk it every other night even when I am seeing someone. I find it pretty wrong to not masturbate, fetuses in the womb play with their genitals. I mean its a toy. It feels good and orgasms are comparable to illegal drugs. I myself know that from experience, driving home from a partners place after sex, i get the same good feelings that pot gave me before I was schizophrenic. Coming is basically the most pleasurable thing a human can do.
Except I find being aggressive feels just as good. Im not right in the head. 
sniffing ammonia, screaming and lifting the heaviest weight feels better than masturbation to me. I was a martial artist in high school, and winning a fight, landing strikes and pinning people and picking them up and slamming them or tackling them felt orgasmic. And it doesnt require wooing people, it just requires a signed waiver and a mouthpiece.
I love szadmin, he is the voice of reason. Religious guilt is a problem, I went to a catholic school but was born an athiest. My best friend and I were daily masturbators in high school and when we got partners eventually, we just lasted really long and always gave them orgasms, so yeah masturbation actually made our sex lives great. It made our partners praise us for our performance and made us feel like men instead of boys.
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Dont listen to NiceHat, once a day is normal, you are a young man and you said you workout. Fit young men are hard wired to impregnate all the healthy young fertile women in sight. So keep jacking it. Just stop jacking it if you get a partner. I can disrupt marriages, that is true, but hey man youre single. If you had a wife I would tell you to stop.
It’s not farmful, NiceHat had a bad experience, her experience was abnormal, your fap habits are perfectly normal.
Im about to go jerk it myself after dinner. I had two finals today.
You will get testy if you don’t fap a coupe-few times a week. I’ve been in martial arts and now competitive weightlifting and fighters and lifters dont have sex or masturbate to make themselves ready for a fight or a competition. Fighters go a month without before a fight. Go watch UFC, they beat eachother like moneys fighting over an ovulating female.
I have problems because I am so testy. I sometimes masturbate before a date with an attractive person because I want to clear my mind of sex and not just begin a casual relationship with them, which I have a bad habit of doing. I didn’t masturbate for a few days and this girl I dated the night before texted me asking for me to come over and watch a movie at her place, then she later added “we should have sex tonight!” and I caved in and boom we were ■■■■ buddies. I would have rather had a relationship but I gave in. If only I had masturbated.
An old friend of mine was drunk and he wanted to have sex one night and because I masturbated I lied and said I didnt have a condom on me. I keep one in my wallet. So masturbation can preserve some relationships and keep them from just devolving into ■■■■ buddy relationships, which i find emotionally frustrating because it’s as close as you can get to a person but they dont really know you that well.
NiceHat,
I think you have a point - porn addiction is bad and harmful to relationships. Which I totally agree with. But thats not what is in discussion here. There is a big difference between occasional masturbation (15 min a day) and 2 hour sessions with porn.
That said - I think people do have to be careful to avoid porn addiction - for example if you’re finding that normal people are not attractive then your porn could be harming your ability to have a relationship.
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I went though a phase where masturbation was a problem. i was smoking pot and masturbating for an hour every night. It made me feel less pleasure in life and not get intimate with my girlfriend at the time. High masturbation was awesome until I became psychotic and voices were insulting me while I did it…
And Lexi Belle is way more attractive than my ex. LOL
you don’t need porn to have a sex addiction. dopamine reward is the same whether you beat off with your PC or not. if you’re beating off daily you’re mentally ill, like the article said.
That was a view of religious conservatives 50 years ago - thankfully science has dispelled that myth.
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Oh Thor…this thread is getting laughable
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Q- What do you call an experienced fisherman?
A- A master baiter.
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