I even broke up with him
I will not stand this
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Ever since I quit nicotine, I’ve been able to enjoying the occasional masterbation session without having anxiety or panic attacks.
Dont see the harm in it . …
I heard on TV that this is pretty common. I think it is like a third of relationships do it regularly or something.
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Masturbating is quite normal, and doesn’t mean your bf doesn’t find you attractive.
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He should of told me he mastwrbated!
Not keep it a secret
I want honesty in a relationship
He’s a liar
And he probably watched porn !
It’s unacceptable
I will find someone who respects me
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It has nothing to do with respect. Masturbation is a private thing, and a need most people feel from time to time.
I think demanding of him to not do that is a bit unreasonable.
How old are you?
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He’s probably embarrassed to tell you, it’s not that he was lying to you.
Good luck finding a partner who doesn’t masturbate.
Lying about masturbating, sure. But I doubt you will find one who actually doesn’t do it.
Not sure where you got the idea that men shouldn’t masturbate from. It’s as natural as wanting to eat or sleep. If a man never masturbates, he’s either seriously brainwashed or has some kind of problem down there.
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He should respect me and not masterbate
He should waited for me to please him instead of masterbate
He should understand that I am hurt and Pay attention to my hurt feelings
Not brush away my hurt feelings over him masterbating over nothing.
He doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong!
But I am hurt and he should acknowledge my feelings and try not to do that again
He has to be honest and respect me
My bf should tell me every little move he does and every single person he talks to
And if he doesn’t
He’s a liar
And doesn’t respect me
This all sounds very odd, and a bit controlling, I don’t think he is the problem
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If you don’t trust your boyfriend, you don’t really respect him.
If you respect him, you don’t try to control him like that.
You seem inexperienced
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He hasn’t done anything wrong. I think you need to learn how male sexuality works. If we don’t masturbate, the sexual urges build up until we can’t resist them, and we end up involuntarily masturbating and climaxing while we sleep, with all the mess that involves. All boys learn to masturbate when they hit puberty, whether they’ve heard about it or not. It just happens. And expecting your boyfriend to keep his hands off his penis at all times is a completely unrealistic expectation, whether you’re always available for sex or not. Male masturbation is not the same as female masturbation. It just happens. The only way to control it is through extreme shame and sexual repression, or loss of sexual function. Not masturbating is for a healthy, sexually active male completely unnatural.
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Where do you think this over controlling comes from
I get really mad over my partner not doing things my way…
Is this OCD?
If a guy needs to fap occasionally, that’s his business. This sounds like a win for him, TBH.
I fully agree with you that you should break up with him. You clearly don’t have a clear understanding of the importance of respecting your partner’s needs and wants as well as your own.
A true relationship is built on trust and compromise. You can’t make demands on how another person lives. It doesn’t sound like you’re paying attention to what HE needs. Masturbation is healthy and normal. It is a fundamental need for many people. To demand he ignores a fundamental need is unreasonable and incompatible with a relationship.
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No, if it’s a PD, it’s probably more narcissistic than any other PD. But it doesn’t have to be a disorder. It could just be a personality trait.
I have aspbergers
I wonder if it’s because of this…
What can I do to make sure I get through this and don’t hurt the people I live around me
