Do you think this is Relationship OCD?
Itās definitely something you should talk to your therapist about. It could be caused by a lot of things. But the important thing to understand is that, while you canāt control your emotions, you CAN control the way you express them. You may never get over feeling upset when your boyfriend masturbates. But you can definitely learn coping strategies so you donāt take it out on him and make unreasonable demands.
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Could be.
If this problem is limited to this area, Iād suggest you just talk to men and try to learn how stuff works for them. If not, maybe try to find a therapist. Therapists can be very helpful for Aspergerās and autism.
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Stop it @anon57786250. I laugh any harder and Imma pee myself.
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CBT helped me learn how to stop hurting people with my emotions. Iāve been with my partner for nearly six years and we have a kid together. I had to spend a long time learning to be okay alone though, while I worked on myself.
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These are my needs I demand from him
-someone who shows interest in listening to what I have to say also WHEN Iām expressing needs and how I feel hurt about something not only when everything is āall goodā
-Someone who acknowledges and accepts that I am truly hurt. Also finding my needs valid and important.
-Someone who is open minded and questions themselves if they had really done something that hurt me. Thatā¦ comes along with admitting they have hurt me when it is the case.
- Someone who doesnāt relate all our struggles with MY mental illness and my Autism
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I stopped dating cause to many women are all about THEIR needs and know nothing about a mans needs
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Those are realistic expectations in a relationship, as long as you also know that sometimes it can be difficult for a partner to manage this perfectly all the time, and that what matters is that you two are able to talk about it and fix the situation after you hurt each other.
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A dude has to Jack off, even I, on risperidone I masturbate, which isnāt very pleasing. I remember when I was without medication, I used to go for a marathon like 6-7 times that day when I was off work until my genitals hurtā¦ damnā¦ those were some good times. Also think that everyone takes time to get insight into an illness, my mom took 4 years at least partially understand schizophrenia and how it affects me. I think relationship has to be mainly about fun you have and secondly about trust
Letās not turn this thread into women vs men etc ā¦
Itās fair to point out that a lot of women donāt seem to understand menās needs. The reverse is also true.
Itās not really based on it being a man or woman, moreso on the type of person or character that individual is.
We all have different personality traits.
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My uncle was gay and was occasionally plagued with partners who didnāt understand the needs of the other d00d in the relationship. Plenty of this shiz to go around.
When I told my mom that I have ED from medication she said that is not a problem, cause life isnāt about sex. I am confused about this: she canāt imagine her vagina sewed off or her ā ā ā ā ā ā ā . The whole purpose of humanity is eat sleep and reproduce
You left out hiking, cats, photography, electronics, my espresso maker, and my panini press. d00d.
Iām not straight, but I hear women complain all the time about how men donāt understand how their body parts or sexual urges work. Well, women arenāt really born experts on how male body parts or sexual urges work either. It goes beyond just not understanding that your partner has emotional needs that all humans have. Some differences between men and women are biological.
I was careful not to say all women. I know women I would date in a heartbeat, but they are taken, but to many times on a date they go on all night on what they expect from their man and have no interest on the other side of the story. this post triggered that sort of thing for me. and of course I assume women have had the same thing happen to them
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Can you blame them ?
Women can orgasm multiple times in a row, while a man can just cum once and pass out.
I cant argue with these women because the female orgasm is indeed a complex thing, and most men dont want to take the time to actually learn how to please a woman.
And yes, some women dont know how to please a man because theyāre too busy figuring out how to please themselves.
I canāt comment on how things are for women, but I have no reason to disagree that what youāre saying is true. Iām just tired of the sentiment that we shouldnāt talk about these things. It seems youāre either a social justice warrior feminist or a menās rights activist incel when you try to talk about how or whether men are sometimes biologically different from women. But Iāll admit I was a bit triggered by this thread. I might have been unreasonable. I donāt know.
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When we stop using our penises as weapons and our breasts as cash grabs, and instead use them to please each other, the world would be a better place.
