And to be clear, if you were broken up, he didn’t cheat on you. He was free to pursue relationships with whoever he chose at that time. He should have been honest about it, but I understand why he was afraid to tell you, because you react meanly.
All i can say is it is up to each person to fix themselves as best they can in or before a relationship, it’s not okay to expect everyone we date to conform to all our beliefs
Most people masturbate, my x wife did and so did I and it can be made a fun thing to do in front of each other,
The point being is couples discuss what goes on in their homes and I think in this case expressing to him calmly you don’t like that sort of thing and prefer he do it when your not around would have been the way to go
He did do it when I wasn’t around…
That’s the problem
He should of waited for me
He deserves to feel guilty for everything he did to me!Hes my caregiver right now because of my dystonia
I haven’t given him any space although he believes he needs it
And I pretend I will eventually give him space
But it never happens
We are together 24/7
And if he thinks about getting space
I end up getting sick and have dystonia
And he has to be there to take care of me
I can’t help it
I need him here when I get sick…
What should I do?
One day I’ll be independent
Yes he did cheat on me
He was with my best friend while I was suffering elsewhere!
He’s so selfish!!!
He’s supposed to wait for you when you’re broken up?
Good gaaak.
By the way
He was honest
He eventually told me he did that
And that’s when I blew up on him
He should of never did that while we were broken up
By expecting to know his every friend and move he makes, you are being controlling, which makes you the abuser in the relationship. I think you need to think long and hard about that
That’s not cheating. When you’re broken up that’s it. He doesn’t have to answer to you. You’re being unreasonable.
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I’ve read this entire thread, and I’ve come to one conclusion: the OP doesn’t want to listen to anyone’s advice or admit to any wrongdoing on her part.
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I’d be quite upset if guy I was seeing went to my bestfrnd wen we broke up n had a thing.
But he does have the right to do that. I’d just be pretty down. I guess it actually depends on why we broke up. If he was a ■■■■■■■ to me n then my bestfrnd hooked up with him. For example I’d feel sad.
What do you call people who are over controlling like me?
Narcissistic?
Or is there another term?
Also how do you treat this?
Is it treatable?
You need to go to therapy. It sounds like it’s really stressing u out. Not gd for Yr mental health.
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I stress out over guys a lot too. That’s why I’m gay now
Or bi or watevar
Being controlling does not have a diagnosis.
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I agree with u admireabarkely its just something someone can be
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Sure it does,
Manipulation.
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That’s hardly in the dsm though is it?
I’m leaning towards Munchausen syndrome in this case then.
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I just want him to respect my needs
And understand that I’m hurt
I don’t want him to just brush it off
I want him to validate what I feel
Because it’s real to me
Im hurt that he masterbated
And he needs to know he’s wrong for not validating my feelings
And I will not get back with him untill he learns his lesson
I tried to be very patient with him…
When I was younger when my dad left us
I pretended to be sick so he’d stay and take care of me
That’s how I got schizophrenia
I pretended to see things until it became a real illness
And now I’m paying for it…
This is the literal definition of Munchausen syndrome.