Idk what to think

I found out that my husband has always wanted a house just to display all of his stuff… It’s like I don’t even know him anymore… I NEVER knew he loved his stuff THIS much… Idk what to do…

I mean, I like my stuff too.

What kind of stuff do you mean?

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I second @anon1517417. What kind of stuff? Most people like their stuff, that’s why they have it

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@anon1517417 @ZmaGal action figures, stuffed animals, his 2007 high school cap and gown, drawings he did as a kid (he got upset one got wrinkles in it), movies(I understand that), books (I understand that too), news paper funny pages cut outs, standing cut outs of movies that he got out of the trash from work, over 20 posters, multiples figures, and lots of stuff my mom had given us a bedroom and another room both to share, and I told him he had to give me room and half of the room… So far he hasn’t given me ANY room and he hasn’t gotten rid of ANYTHING!

@anon1517417 @ZmaGal if he didn’t want a relationship with someone or to give them any room why marry me?

I think you are reading WAY too far into this. He has sentimental attachments. Thats a super normal thing. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you, or that he isn’t willing to compromise with you. You might just be asking him for more than he can do right now. Childhood drawings ARE special. Good posters ARE special. It is super normal for him not to want to part with that stuff.

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@ninjastar if he can’t part with enough stuff to give me room then he honestly need to get out of my and my mom’s house along with all of his stuff if he can’t compromise and yes I’ve thrown out a lot and so has my mom and he can’t he can leave my life and stay out

Almost everything I own is digital. Other than a phone and a small number of other devices.

When you move a lot you have to reduce your hoard. A few years after I got sick I managed to sell off 80% of my belongings for several thousand dollars before I would have had to leave it behind.

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Why would you marry him if you love the idea of half a bedroom more than him?

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@ninjastar it’s not that! It’s the fact I have no room anywhere! Our bedroom is full of HIS STUFF the other room is PACKED with HIS STUFF nothing is mine I have a separate closet from him and a bag and a box that I can’t unpack because of HIS STUFF

I’m going through a similar thing with my roommate but like he’s a roommate not a partner… have you tried just communicating ?

@Moon I have! It’s not working

I think he may be a hoarder then but you have to decide for yourself if you’re willing to put up with that. My best friend is married to a hoarder and she’s constantly frazzled by it.

@Moon I’m NOT gonna live in a horder’s home I like clean and organized not junked up and bags and boxes all over the floor

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Okay but like, let’s be real. There is a HUGE difference between hoarding and saving a few boxes of stuff. I have big boxes of stuff that I store in a spare room.

Why don’t you guys just get a storage unit? They’re like 10-30 per month.

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This is a sensible answer.

@ninjastar for the rest of our lives? What’s the purpose? And we have a 5 x10 for $50 a month the cheapest around here and it’s full of his stuff! I’m not talking about just a few boxes the entire floor to that one room is COVERED in bags and boxes of his stuff I’ve put some of his movies on shelves and he isn’t happy about that

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What about getting a place of your own?

I feel like this situation is ripe for resentment.

@anon1517417 same problem I let him have a full room back when we had a2 bedroom it spilled out into the living room so that won’t work plus my mom is giving me the house after she passes I will not let my husband display his stuff everywhere across an entire house it’s my home too and I want areas free of that stuff