I realized this during the move from our own place to my mom’s, my mom says we get two rooms one has our bedroom and the other is for our stuff (my crafts and his stuff) I didn’t realize how much stuff he had I knew that most of the stuff was his but goodness he has to much… My mom and I told him if he wanted to live here he would have to get rid of some of his stuff and all of his stuff has to be put everything on display instead of all those boxes! And everything has to be on shelves and half of the room is for me and he’s not allowed to put ANYTHING on my side!
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lol hope you guys are settling in well. im a minimalist personally, my room literally doesnt even have a bed lol idk i find having no possessions freeing
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@POET I have my food hoard as I call it and mom and I are slashing that down and using what we can so I have my issues too but mine is more food not stuff his is stuff
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lol true you should see my moms food stash, though i think shes a bit of a prepper haha. i like the idea of being able to live with nothing. like if someone dropped me off in the middle of nowhere being able to live and be happy.
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I have lots of electronics, cables, etc But I can live without them.
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Thats if my sz negative symptoms improve.
@Aziz he has “action figures” , stuffed animals he got from claw machines, he has movies (don’t mind that), CDs (don’t mind that), VCR movies, cassettes, cassette player, lots of posters, calendars from years ago, news paper clippings of the funny pages… It’s a lot
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Be careful about just tossing stuff. People who actually are hoarders are very emotional about their stuff. It can really hurt them mentally to just toss out their things. Be gentle. And if it is bad, insist he get therapy.
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@anon4362788 I’m gonna have him pick and choose what he keeps… I’ve given him a month to start or I was gonna start pitching stuff I know it’s gonna be hard on him but I’m trying to be gentle and trying to understanding but I’m not gonna let him keep it all, he tried to get therapy before and after they never called him back he never tried again
I used to hoard such things. My friends helped me to take pictures of all those things. Then I could get rid of them, knowing I had a copy saved somewhere.
As for these things, perhaps you guys could donate them to a local youth center, or to an organization that provides gifts for children in need. Your husband has a caring heart. Maybe the idea that a kid would love and care for those things would help him feel ready to part with them.
As for these,i know there are VERY MANY autistic people who are obsessedwith VHS tapes,and refuse to watch DVD or digital movies. If you contacted a local special education school near you, I bet there would be a lot of folks who would know of someone who could use those.
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Do you know why they love VHS tapes, @Ninjastar ?
I find this fascinating because my little nephew was diagnosed with autism.
Not all, but it’s pretty common, especially in folks who grew up with VHS tapes. A lot of parents of kids with autism never bothered with DVDs, because they are so easy to break. VHS tapes are more durable and can withstand rougher handling from someone with less developed motor control. I would imagine that once streaming became popular, most parents switched to that, so younger kids probably are used to that.
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Oh sorry I missed this word. Because they are used to seeing movies this way, and because they love fast forwarding and rewinding over and over again. Going forward and backward on a dvd or digital movie doesnt give the same stimming satisfaction.
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One of my favorite students loved the Lion King, but only on fast forward.
Gotcha! I still own a good mount of VHS tapes. I’ll be sure to save them for my nephew, in case he wants to watch them.
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Maybe good to ask if he likes VHS tapes first. Like I said, this is mostly for the older crowd. The youngest student I ever had just turned 19, and I’ve been out of the business for a good 5 years.
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Sounds good! He’s only three now, but when he gets older I’ll ask him.
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