Maybe im just a parent to teenagers, but that room looks super normal to me.
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I know money is tight, but if you bought some stackable plastic tote bins instead of garbage bags and boxes it would probably not take up much space at all. Maybe 2 columns floor to ceiling.
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Or else, how much more expensive would a slightly larger storage unit be?
Hoarding isn’t just about sentimental attachment; there’s a real sense of fear attached to throwing things out. Your husband might fear ‘losing a memory’, or ‘not having something that he needs’ at some future moment.
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I feel OP has already made up their mind to leave 
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Sorry @Twialine. I’m not sure what a good solution would be. Ninjastar’s suggestion about the plastic bins could be promising?
I lived with someone who liked to display action figures and stuff in the living areas and it frustrated me because it wasn’t my idea of what the house should look like. I’m not sure if that’s the situation with you guys, but maybe let him display a few things and maybe he’ll be grateful because he knows how strongly you feel about it?
@Ninjastar @anon1517417 @Moon I’m not gonna get totes or anything like that, I’m done talking about this, @Moon is right to a point, it’s up to David if he’s unwilling to get rid of stuff if not fine he can leave, he agreed to these terms when we moved this isn’t new news to him
@Ribbon I understand that but if he can’t let me have room I’m done
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I think people were just trying to help you find a solution.
This doesn’t seem to be about his stuff or about space. It seems to me like you are feeling insecure, and decided to make a demand of him to prove that he loves you. It seems like you are deciding that because he doesn’t want to throw out his special items, it means he must not love you. You are responding as though he told you he doesn’t care about you or your feelings.
But what he is hearing is that you don’t care about him or his feelings at all. You two need to sit down and talk about things and come up with a solution besides “keep everything in haphazard cardboard boxes” and “randomly throw out everything @Twialine doesn’t personally feel is important enough to keep”
Marriage is about cmpromise. Thre are So Many solutions but you aren’t willing to think of any of them because in your mind, anything other than him throwing everything away means he doesn’t love you.
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@Ninjastar I said I’m done talking about this, I’m not insecure, I just think it’s stupid to have stuff you can’t even see just sitting around. I could be really mean right now but I’m not gonna attack you, I know you don’t know me very well or how I was raised or how any of his family lives of two are horders. Please do NOT respond if you wish go ahead and close this thread.