I have sexual trauma, meaning that I don’t enjoy sex because I have permanent psychological and physical effects from it.
I want a boyfriend one day who doesn’t want sex.
I asked my brother what are the chances of finding someone who doesn’t want sex, ever,
Do you know any couples where both of them don’t want sex? Or are you in that kind of relationship.
I asked my brother and he said it’s not possible, lol.
You should do some therapy.
I’ve found most sex issues come up when your not getting any. If your in a relationship with some sex most tend to disappear. It’s just another of those things we obsess about that really should be easy.
Your young. Sex is fun and should be intimate and caring and all those good things. I know it’s hard to find connections in the modern world of swipe right but honestly. Plenty of people out there who are just the same…The problem is meeting them.
Thankyou but I’ve had therapy for it and it didn’t really convince me to change my mind.
I really don’t think I like sex.
It makes me feel so so so stressed. Generally too.
Has an impact on all aspects of my life when I accept a sexual relationship.
Yeah wasn’t being critical was just saying that in the past I thought all those things too. It was frustrating and I failed miserably for so long.
We are all different and life takes you down some strange streets. All’s I was saying is that don’t write yourself off too early in life. I didn’t get laid till I was 32 and after a lifetime of such thoughts.
Apologies if I crossed a line as I wasn’t trying to do that. Trauma is very real and take some work too.
Nope, you’re alright.
Definitely you would really be helped by it i think
Not to change your mind. But to understand it.
My therapist is lousy. I wish i had a good one.
Yea, like I said, therapy did not help. I am planning on doing therapy again when I feel ready for it. Sorry to hear your therapist is lousy.
Could you get a new one?
I would have to change my psychiatrist and my nurse in order to do so and it makes it difficult to get my Depot shot
There’s nothing wrong with not wanting sex. And there are plenty of people in relationships that don’t have sex.
You may want to look into asexuality cause the community can be very supportive!!
When it comes to relationships it is important to discuss sexual boundaries if they aren’t able to respect those boundaries move on.
It’s very possible to have a healthy and happy relationship without sex
Does anyone here know an asexual couple?
Or do you know asexual men?
Just wondering how much it exists on this planet, proportionately
Hmmmm… what would be the benefits of having a partner (who you are just starting to know, I don’t mean beeing 40 years married- because those people are family anyways)? I mean to try and begin a relationship that way?
There’s more to a relationship than sex
There’s other forms of intimacy
There’s also chemistry.
Who said having chemistry HAS to equal sex.
It all depends ofcourse on the fact that both ppl in the relationship are actually not interested in sex
These are just additional things to the friendship that comes with a relationship, making it a unique type of friendship
Yup yup, but intimacy and chemistry also come with friendship…
Can you put some examples of what is friendship and rls to you?
Maybe this is a good exercise, and helps you clarify what you want/need…
I’ve known quite a few asexual men.
And I know a few asexual couples.
It all comes down to finding someone who fits well with you and your needs
Whats this called, you like someone so much and would like to spend time more than having sex, my understanding is and i was grown up in a view sex is sin 
I was beaten up for my behavior at the age of 7 and 8 which impact my view in opposite sex.
I think it is sexual trauma…
I cant even properly talk to them, without hurting them first.
I also make friends after a good fight.
I’m a bit shy to answer your question. 
But I really appreciate the post. I see ur intention. Just idk how to vocalise some things on a public forum
Thanks Noise. I appreciate that.
We haven’t had a fight yet. I guess we aren’t good friends yet then, hehe.
Really, how do you hurt them first? I can’t imagine it tbh. But if u say so..
No i remember, the first converstion we had was about talking about my friend as an example i gave . My friend said this is the only interest i have, dont take it away.
I told him from start of humans we are driven in this subject get over with it.