Are you talking about sex?
I dont get it
Then you asked what you mean and i did not reply 
Yes @FreeLunch i feel awkward to talk of it
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We don’t have to it’s okay
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Sorry. I didn’t know u feel awkward to talk about it. We don’t need to.
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Dont be you did not know.
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I wasn’t pressuring u to respond to wat u did not respond to.
I was just responding to the post u did actually respond to me to.
I didn’t realise it makes u feel awkward that much. But that is OK. I feel awkward about talking about some stuff too.
It’s just life lol
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I know multiple asexual guys, I am not asexual but my ex partner and I for years had an asexual relationship as well. Relatiobships def dont have to be based on sex.
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Idk if what I will say will make sense but
It’s ok you if don’t want sex. Its totally normal,
But, it could change in the future. What I mean is not that it will change; but it could.
Overall I believe there are many asexual guys out there. And you 100% could find one. Just always be honest with guys about it.
I also have some… problems with this thing. I am not asexual, but I barely can find a person I feel good together with. I really need at first very good relationship.
And one thing to mention, I believe it’s totally normal for us to be unique. And I feel sorry, that you was abused. Literally very very sorry about that.
I believe time will give you a relief, and one day the trauma won’t visit you in your mind anymore. 
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You might be right
But I swear on my life, right now I simply can’t imagine this.
And maybe that’s OK. Because if its not okay, life will be misearable
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^^^
By the above post
I mean that if I can’t accept asexuality, which I feel, then I will be miserable because I’ll be resisting what I really am
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@anon8411913 it sounds like you are demisexual. That’s cool
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My aunt is asexual and has sex about a half dozen times during the course of her 28 year marriage.
She wanted children and had sex for procreation purposes only.
The first two times it was “one shot, on kill” as they said.
Got pregnant on the first try.
Anyway, I’m saying you can find someone that’s on your level, sexually.
But I also think you’re a little obsessed with the issue.
I don’t think you need therapy to be more comfortable with sex,
You need it to be more comfortable with yourself.
I mean, you’ve had a lot of thoughts on your sexuality during the course of a very little time.
All very different.
If you don’t want to do therapy,
I suggest you do a self esteem workbook or something.
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Thankyou, I think this is good, I actually have some that I still need to read.
I M sorry but I doubt it will change my feelings about sex, but it will likely help me feel more confident internally.
@Zoe , i think you have to adopt a boyfriend that he should respect your lady- ness. Sorry i didn’t found other words. But you understand that he should respect you at the time of sex. Means he should not adopt bad method of sex, he loves you and don’t do mouth or anal like stuff. Otherwise you feel trauma in sex.
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I would suggest that if you have trauma and do not like sex , stop going on dating sites for hook ups. That doesn’t help.
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