Honestly I’m not trying to be rude
I just feel that I’m going to be used for sex mostly.
And when someone comes along hotter or and more confident than me, then they will dispose of me and my use to them.
So I’m thinking I may turn gay.
Only if I actually come across a person where I feel that romantic attraction.
It has sort of happened in the past.
With woman I don’t fear rejection and being used to the detrimental extent that I do with men.
Hate me now! 
Grrr i hate you 151515
Either you are gay or you are not. You can’t turn gay! Just saying!
I’m sure you will find someone with a good heart. 
So maybe try a long-term relationship with them without the sex first. This should help weed out the horndogs.
Lol.
I’m not saying a woman can’t do that too potentially. Being used.
But it’s just with women, I don’t feel the pain and detrimental worry
You can’t just turn gay for that reason. It doesn’t make sense.
Maybe you’re bisexual? Idk
Maybe yea. I do see the appeal to men. I just don’t want my soulmate to be a man, as in, I don’t want to take it that far. Because of the fear of pain and worry and potential consequent mental health effects. Plus it leads to me wanting to binge eat more out of comfort.
I have to admit that I was a complete slimebag who just wanted to use women for sex before I sobered up. So were most of the rest of the males I hung with at that time. I can understand why it’s frustrating for women.
Just date men but don’t have sex with them. It’s a shame that relationships have gotten so transactional in our society, but i guess it is better to not be naive about it. You could always get really fat and then nobody would want to have sex with you, but then again people kind of like feeling attractive so you probably don’t want that either. I’d say maybe the best way is to get to know somebody before you have sex with them, But that requires you to have good judgment and most people with our illness don’t have that. Don’t know what to say except don’t date a**holes 
kinda sounds odd to say you are being used for sex when regularly meeting up with men from hookup apps. isnt that the point? most people on those apps only want one thing. i hear that if u really want to meet good people u meet them through your daily activities and hobbies
I’ve given up on dating. I’m a hermit idc anymore. Too much ptsd and trauma involved in my life. Idc they win. I lose. But idc.
Yea that was a phase where I was unsure of my true needs. I thought it would be fun getting drunk. It was. But then I relapsed. And that’s not getting used as it was a mutual decision between me and the man I had sex with.
If you’re with someone you’re not really attracted to, you’ll just be friends. When you’re young you think you’re supposed to be in a relationship. You’re better off waiting for someone you want, even if it takes too long. I wish I would have focused more on a career than worrying about being with a man. When you settle for someone you don’t really want, you usually regret it.
When you find “that someone” it’s really like finding the missing half of your soul. You just feel complete around them and can’t imagine not beiing around them. Partly sexual, but mostly not.
Courage is to love and be loved regardless, despite fears.
If that was the relationship and they moved on so be it. If they truely care for you they wont do that. You wouldnt want someone to stick around anyway if thats who they were. That would be terrible. Not loving in the moment.
Gl slothy
I have had attractions to females before although rare.
I kind of just used to dismiss it.
Count my exploits with women during my active addiction in that category too.
Sobering up and taking a long look at my behavior opened my eyes to a lot of dysfunction.
i trust my first degree family. no one else. you shouldn’t either. life is war disguised as an amusement park. put on your war suit and get it on. boom. fly me to the moon. in other worlds, trust no one.
The worst part is that I can’t use the drinking as an excuse. I was just as vile when I was sober. All the booze did was pour gas on that fire.