I get that. You are proud of him. That’s great. It’s just that this is a public site and businesses could link them here to this site because it is a professional sit for hiring and job hunting. I just don’t think it is a good idea. That’s all. 
Cool. I get it.
Not to worry, he is a tough cookie.
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Okay. No problem.
I deleted that. Don’t post anyone’s personal information here please
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I am sure you would.
Have a nice family truth buried day.
And then you say…
It isn’t burying truth, it’s protecting people. Anyone can come on here and see the info.
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Sorry, I am not big on hiding the truth. I am a big truth supporter.
Hide the truth, and all h_ll breaks loose.
Just imagine that all truth is shared across the world.
OMG, heaven would appear.
If emotional neglect counts as abuse, then yes I’ve been abused.
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But you also want to encourage trust. You don’t want to lose his truth when you share his info on a site for people with mental illnesses. You have the right to be anonymous here, but you are not protecting your brothers identity because his info is not hidden. Is this easier to understand maybe?
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NO. I want to show that there is a bigger picture.
We are one.
We are not one, we are all individuals who should try to get along with everyone.
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Reach further !
Ok, let’s get this back to abuse.
What have any of you done to heal?
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I talked to my brother and I have accepted his apology. My first adoptive family? Never speak to them.
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I was sexually abused starting when, idk but it stopped when I was 4. It was my paternal grandfather. I repressed the whole thing but would have nightmares about it as a child and adolescent. It really had a dramatic affect on my self esteem and image, emotions and how I related to people. When I was 14 I became suicidal due to bullying and feeling terrible about myself and the dream, I thought I was a sicko or something. Then when I was hospitalized, an art therapist asked me to draw a picture of a person, and I drew my grandfather. Next thing I know I’m talking to someone about how they know I was abused because my mother told them ( had no memory of telling her ) and that I would have to recount everything I remembered to a department of child and families worker in about an hour. The guy tried to push me into saying things that never happened on top of what did, then informs me that someone is immediately going to go to my grandfather s house to tell him the charges. ( He spoke broken English so I knew my poor godmother was going to have to translate). I felt guilty like I caused a chasm in my family, nothing was ever the same. I had to live right across the street from him. And I was angry at my mom for not doing more.( Until years later when I found out she went through it when she was a child, and nobody did anything about it.) All of the sudden all these fragments of memory made sense when the truth came out. ( Tool’s Schizm had just come out and really fit my reality). I ended up making peace with the man when he had cancer 10yrs later. I had closure before he died. I’m grateful for that and have adopted a survivor not victim mentality.
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For me, healing is by telling myself that I paid for a life lesson cos he financially abused me.
Also the sexual coercion whilst I was in a paranoid state, I tell myself that that was me in the past, that disgusting time does not apply to me now, so I feel less affected (though I have slight concerns still about what he could have passed on to me)
Also will be getting talk therapy this year I’m booked a, place.
Also by just looking after myself, I feel better and can maybe move on.
I’m working on that one, it’s a rough journey of ups and downs
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Yes by my biological father
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I have heard from some parents who wanted my testimony against my abusive teacher. Apparently she continued to abuse students- I guess some people never learn to be kind. The parents called my mother and my mother told me about this. Not sure how they found my address, though. I never gave my testimony.
I’ve never heard of apologies from anyone, but I know that that doesn’t matter anymore.
I’m healing through arts and crafts (mainly embroidery/knitting) and through music. I’m also in therapy.
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Yes by my friends uncle when I was 12 and again when I was 14 by two older male friends.
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Yes, by my voices, Confused, tortured, harrassed, possessed, scared, I hope they leave me alone. There is no reason to harm me.
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