I for one am very unhappy with my current body. I used to be very thin and toned, as i did a lot of running. Now i feel like a fat, flabby pig. I’m trying my best to lose the weight. I’ve lost some, but it hasn’t been easy.
When it comes to body image, i think it is okay for you to be happy with your weight, so long as you’re aware of the consequences. I have nothing against someone being happy that their over weight. But they have to be aware they’re at risk of diabetes, strokes, heart attacks, etc. If they’re okay with those risks, then let them be.
I think it’s good and bad. We can’t all be perfect, and we have to learn to live with that. People are also attracted to different kinds of bodies. But some bodies are healthier, and some are, for most people, more attractive. That’s just a fact that we have to accept. You can like your body and still ideally want to improve it. And if you don’t like your body, maybe it’s enough that your partner does.
I think we’ve had this conversation before. I’m pretty happy with myself but plan to work on the exercise bike a lot harder after moving, if I can just drop 20 pounds I will qualify as average for my height.
The women in these ads seem to have more weight on them than a dad bod would have, I put that in a different category… mainly just a little extra weight in the belly.
Theres no practical purpose of having any specific body type anymore, we live in diversified economies in the modern era. Carrying extra weight offers no protection for famine that will never come and being skinny wont help you chase down and wind a herbivore you wont be eating. Its a free for all of every body type so everyone has to make their own case for what they got and if the case cant be made to capitulate on one diet or another or exercise plan or whatever.
I believe in positivity, not blind acceptance.
It’s okay to be at peace with whatever bodytype a person has, but they do themselves a disservice by saying their bodytype is just fine and doesn’t need to change.
Weighing 200kg (400 pounds I think), for an example, doesn’t make a person ugly, nor should they feel that way.
But saying “this is fine, no need to change” can and will lead to diabetes and heart failure amongst other comorbidities.
Also, not to be that guy, but I feel the body positivity movement is a bit harmful to trans folks like me.
Coming out lead people to give me responses like “I really wish you’d learn to be happy with the physique you have instead of wanting to change it”.
You can want to change the way you look without hating it, you know. I do love myself somewhat, I’m ambivalent if nothing else, and I don’t need some mpdg to tell me I just need to accept myself the way I was born.
No one should be made to feel miserable about their weight, but there should be some encouragement to exercise and get as healthy as is reasonably possible for your situation.
There’s also the fact that a typical female body will always have more fat than a typical male body before being considered “plus size.” I don’t remember the exact numbers but i think a female body can have up to like 5% more fat before being classified as overweight, and a male body can have like 5% less fat before being considered underweight.
Yes. I see parents feeding morbidly obese kids horrible food and telling them how beautiful they are. If you’re so fat that you have front and back ass cracks, it’s not beautiful and you’re setting kids up for a short life with long suffering. That’s abusive parenting IMO.
If you’re a biggie and okay with it, good on ya, but let’s not go around saying things are healthy when they aren’t. It’s like me eating red meat: I know it carries increased health risks but I accept them. For me to tell people that it’s safe would be dishonest and that’s not cool.
I am on the heavier side now cause my motabolism has slowed down in my 30’s and also cause I’ve had a baby.
I am not unhappy with the way I am. However I know it’s not exactly healthy. Especially for someone with a heart problem like myself. I would like to loose weight but at the moment I’m too exhausted with almost 3 month old to even think about doing anymore exercise other than my half hour walk with the dog per day
Don’t worry too much about that @Qwerty. In my experience, simply carrying the baby around is a good workout, and will lead to losing fat and building muscle. And then, when they get old enough for solid food, they want to eat exclusively from your plate and you end up not eating as much as a result.
Congratulations on becoming a mom Qwerty. Pug power!
As for the topic, to me it is more a matter of health. Having two sisters though I’ve realized societal standards make them always feel like they need to lose weight. To me they’re not even fat and look good as they are. My older sister exercises daily, I think it’s therapeutic for her. Hearing her complain about wanting to lose weight becomes and annoyance though.
@ThePickinSkunk I dated a deformed guy once. He also had a cleft palate and couldn’t talk normal. He was sweet to me and good with my daughter. A very nice guy
It’s when you’re so fat that it forms what looks like a second butt crack, but on your front. Watch the movie X-Men Origins: Wolverine for context. Wolvie’s ring match with Fred Dukes a.k.a. “Blob.”
Yup, that’s me when I biff it. I require an audience.
I know. I’m at the point now I don’t even really care. Younger me would have been embarrassed