When someone gets to my size there is nothing positive about the effects on our health. When I was at my heaviest I couldn’t walk half a mile without severe pain, and stairs were my enemy. My breathing was crap, and I was eating enough to feed a village.
I get being comfortable in one’s own skin, but at the same time I don’t want to die in ten years from a preventable disease. I’m already pre-diabetic, hypertensive, and on the cusp of horrible cholesterol. I just don’t see any positivity there.
I’ve been big so long that I dont really care how I look anymore. I’m not after abs, I’m after health.
With that being said, it never helps to beat yourself up about whatever your body looks like. I have been working on more positive self talk, and not putting myself down or making myself feel worse while I deal with it. 25 pounds down currently, which to me is great as I can already walk a heck of a lot better, and my blood pressure has dropped a good deal. My cholesterol has somewhat reduced as well.
Ultimately body positive should never mean that we deny the effects that being morbidly obese causes. From what I’ve seen denying the health effects of being my size is a big issue in the body positive community.
When I was obese, aka 208 lbs., BMI of 25, I was doing yoga for 30 minutes a day, 4 times a week, and the yoga made me feel confident and great about my body for years, despite the weight.
Then, two strangers made two separate derogatory public comments about my weight. That was all it took for me to turn around and lose 50 pounds over a year and a halfs time and keep it off going on six years now.
I think we should be healthier. I don’t know if being skinny is achievable for many. I also don’t think a skinny person who huffs after walking a block is all that healthy. Being obese, obviously not good. Chub on an active person is probably very reasonable and nothing to be ashamed over.
I have a gut which I strongly suspect is a consequence of AP’s and I don’t like it. There is a reason people like the look of healthy people… Health is attractive. Just my opinion. Although I haven’t gotten fed up enough to change it, because I guess I am not looking to be attractive but I don’t think it’s attractive.
Yep, body neutrality for me all the way. I have been, at various points in my life, thin, average-sized, and overweight, and I’m currently overweight but working to drop some weight. I think I look fine as I am now but I have health-related reasons for wanting to lose weight. I think everyone of every size is beautiful, though for a while now I have been wishing for a shift in how we view our fellow humans, to an emphasis on valuing personality over physical appearance, the opposite of how things are now. I’ve resigned myself to operating as best I can within our current parameters of assessing each other’s worth, though.
My best friend is big on body positivity. But she expects her partner to be cute and with a good body. She’s 400 pounds (181kg). She has fatty liver disease, diabetes, a cough that absolutely won’t go away, and she has trouble breathing and can only walk short distances. I think in cases like that, it’s wrong to be positive about your body when it’s destroying your health and lifespan.
I have a better self esteem now as a fat person than I ever did when I looked like a model. I hated myself back then. I thought I was ugly & it caused me a lot of emotional pain. Now I could care less. Well sometimes I wanna be thin. I think this comes with age. Honestly raising sows (pigs) helped me. They don’t care if they’re fat or ugly. This taught me a life lesson
I saw a post not long ago about a woman who lost a lot of weigh maybe 100lbs or something and she was saying:
It’s sickening to see how many messages she’s getting from people who suddenly want to talk to her and how sad it is that she never received that kind of love before she lost weight
I think this is something we seriously need to work on as a society.
My aunt has been a very big lady for a long time. Her husband has always adored her. She was very successful in the corporate world until she recently retired.
My dad when I was a little kid made pig noises at her (far enough away so she couldn’t hear). I’ve never seen her overeat though.
I find the woman you posted incredibly sexy. But then, I have always been attracted to full-bodied women.
I think the thin-is-beautiful mentality is a social construct. Of course, if you need to lose weight for health reasons, it is a good idea. It’s really up to you
I think it all comes down to health. There are certain people that are just too heavy and it’s not healthy. I could point to myself as an example. I was 248 last time I got weighed. I don’t think I should use “body positivity” as an excuse to let myself go.
But I don’t think a little bit of extra weight that doesn’t interfere with your health is something to be ashamed of. I think body positivity can be a good thing as long as you aren’t at the point that it is unhealthy.
I think these women you have shown, especially the last one, are at a higher risk for type 2 diabetes, heart disease , strokes , cancer and a long list of other complications.
Weight isn’t necessarily indicative of health. I was healthier at 225 than I was at 140, even though 140 is considered a healthy weight for my height and 225 is considered obese. This is according to my doctor, but also according to the fact that at 140 I was constantly dizzy and could barely walk a mile, but at 225 I was weight-lifting, kickboxing, hiking, etc. I looked better in photos at 140 but I had more energy at 225. I’m now around 200, but that’s only because I was switched from a med that causes weight gain to a med that causes weight loss.
