can you have conversations wit yout family? friends? strangers? what kind of things are comfortable to you to talk about? what kind of things you talk about?
I feel i have no conversation stuff to talk about, it makes me feel a boring person and not smart or cultured at all
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I can talk to all of the above. I can talk about anything. My clients talk to me about all kinds of stuff.
I’m sure if someone started a conversation with you, you could carry on a conversation just fine.
I wasn’t good at small talk all the time with clients in my mid twenties. I saw my boss have small talk and I learned from him and got better. My husband still says it depends on the situation whether I’m good with small talk even now.
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I think it’s with good listening skills and how to quickly answer the convo. I like convo with family and friends…strangers a bit less.
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Good that you can do it! I think I can also handle conversations but in a simple way, just answering things like “yes, of course, etc.” I don’t think I understand most of the topics that I usually get involved in in conversations.
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What she said. It was hard at first but I’ve had enough practice over the years that I can perform on command now.
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Good listening skills is very important imo too. Its kinda hard to pay attention sometimes but it actually improves the conversation
The last couple weeks……. I’ve been awful with small talk…… I don’t know what’s going on with me……
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Feel the same but for the last years…
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No i don’t do conversation well, ive always struggled. I came across something tonight its called 'working memory ’ i read a bit about it and i think i struggle with working memory, it doesn’t mean im thick it doesn’t affect iq but it affects cognitive abilities and is common in schizophrenia, thats the most i can remember you should look it up yourself just in case it is relatable
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@Kaito although i struggle with things i try not to go overboard worrying about everything, this is just something i came across 'working memory ’ and it makes sense because i can’t retain information very good at all. My mother always has said i struggle with short term memory. Im no good at multi-tasking really either
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Yes but not deep enough.
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I have no problems talking and enjoy it. Always keen for a chat. It is a skill and a lot is listening and reacting to cues.
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Well if you have brain damage or cognitive impairment then theres not a lot you can do really is there??
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Sorry i just get into a state sometimes worrying. Its 5am i woke up too early and i cant stop worrying. Im thinking i hate being ill and i hope i don’t end up with dementia or something
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It’s cool. I’m different to a lot but always been a talker even when I’m paranoid. Most folk can improve their communication for sure but it’s like most things.
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Yeah but im not most folk 
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Hope you will meet someone you are comfortable with @anon29983254 .
I think if you are comfortable with someone it doesn’t matter.
You can sit in silence n be fine or you can talk about silly things and be happy with that.
Doesn’t have to be intellectual complicated conversations.
I’m not an educated intellectual so I just keep it light as such.
I’m very uncomfortable around a lot of people because they attack me intellectually and with bad vibes and are horrible to me.
Or and fake while attacking with vibes pretending to be nice.
It’s unbearable and it’s “my family “.
My neighbourhood looked nicer today.usually it’s them against me or what about all of me against them in self defence.
Anyway it doesn’t matter how you talk or don’t talk if you are with the right people.
They love you for you and you don’t have to prove anything with fancy conversations.
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Your absolutely right! Just have to be ourselves and be as happy and comfortable in our own skin.
My dad is very relaxed and gentle man
My mum is a confident socialite, totally overwhelming sometimes
My husband is intense about politics and economics but he does try and listen although im not much for conversation. I just have to accept things about everyone and myself but its hard sometimes
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I feel the same as u.
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Thanks for your kind words and encouragement @Truemist8
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