I’m not good at small talk at all. I bore people when I try to make interesting banter. Either that, or I scare them.
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Pretty good, when I’m in my better frame of mind.
You know how it is. Sometimes we clam upand sometimes we can chatter.
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I am mediocre at best. I don’t watch a lot of the shows that NTs do. I never watch sitcoms or romcoms and can’t talk about those. Or sports. It’s hideous whenever my wife visits with co-workers and I get stuck with sport head husbands. I can talk cars to a limited extent. I tend to know about the cars I have owned in detail, but not a lot about cars in general. I can’t talk about the music most people my age listen to because I got bored with it twenty years ago and moved on.
I also have the typical social deficits that come with being an Aspie. It means part of my concentration is divided when talking with others. Part goes to decoding their body language. Part goes to managing my body language. Part goes to making sure I don’t go off on some tangent while talking. It is mentally exhausting after doing it for too long.
I do as much as I need to and all the while I’m edging toward the exit.
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9/10 good at small talk.
I definitely get it from my mother.
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You also seem to watch a lot of the shows that come up in watercooler talk.
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True that.
I know my pop culture pretty well and it helps.
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Heheh @FreeLunch - the local paper has interviewed an SZ without realizing it at least twice last year.
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I’m terrible at small talk. It’s what makes me so socially awkward. I’m much better at deeper conversation
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I used to be horrible at it. Then psychosis happened. And meds happened. And somehow I got less inhibited/introverted. I think because of the meds wrecking my brain. And now I have less issues with smalltalk. Strangely.
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A good way to get better at small talk is complimenting strangers.
No matter how awkward you are, they’ll appreciate the compliment and you’ll exchange pleasantries.
It doesn’t make a difference if you do a good or bad job,
They’re a ■■■■■■■ stranger.
And you complimented them.
So,
It works.
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What exactly is small talk?
Talking about everyday small things,
or gossip?
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I’m okay at it. Is being able to talk with someone by saying whatever relevent thing that I think of based on what they just said. trouble is I can think of inappropriate things sometimes but mainly people appreciate it i reckon
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Gossip is different
Did you know that the word gossip used to only be a noun and meant a type of woman
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Me too. I don’t want people to take it personally, but it’s just too awkward and exhausting to spend much time making small talk. I’m not that much into football. I’m not that much into cars. I like amateur wrestling and military weapons systems, God help me.
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No. It’s a waste of energy and time.
I won’t apologize to anyone for being cold about it either.
People who want small talk have a deeper problem.
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I do small talk fine, it’s big talk that is difficult for me.
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People who call out others for being happy with a social skill also have a deeper problem.
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Lol big talk is ■■■■■■ up
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Oh snap. 15151515
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