She turned you down. She did not reject you. There is a difference. There is a possibility that you can still be friends. But that depends on you. It won’t be easy because you will have to get over being hurt. But, it can be done. If you do, you won’t regret that. Ever.
So, you need to get past your hurt feelings. The best way to do that is to find another woman/girl that you would like to know romantically. Get her interested in you. Ask her out. If she turns you down, go on to the next one.
Keep trying. It will work out.
Caveat: Don’t ever act desperate. No woman will give you a chance if you act desperate. Behave as if it is a take it/leave it situation. You were interested/she wasn’t. Bury your hurt. Move along. Be positive. Act yourself. You will connect with some. Not with others. It’s the nature of life.
@Newtothis1 is the author of this thread. I think my answer is very pertinent to what she wrote. Sometimes answers get put out of order to the flow of the conversation. I guess that’s what might have happened.
Women do not propose marriage or have mortgages? That isn’t even close to factual. Women are 100% equal. There is not a single thing a male has ever done that a female has not, yet there are things women have the ability to do that men cannot.
I proposed marriage to my husband. I bought my first house when I was twenty. I gave birth to two children. I started my own business at 22. A second business at 26 and a third business at 29. With very little support or belief I would do well. I did so well that I was able to hire my own employees and my husband quit his job to work with me. I build beautiful houses and pretty cakes. Who needs gender roles when you can do anything you want to, and damn well.
Please show me a man who wakes early morning to work emails and estimates, packs his kids healthy lunches, kisses them off to school, does hard, manual labour all day and gets home in time to make dinner, take their kids to basketball, help with homework and read books to them before bed. I dare you. I double dog dare you.
Lol I take it you haven’t had too many girlfriends shenzi?
The world has changed though, it may of been that way many years ago to some degree. But the world is different now in that men and women both contribute.
I’d say the woman may even work harder now as she takes care of kids and also works full-time to support their family.
It’s a touchy subject, so that’s all I’m gonna say
Sure, that’s the point @StripedShirtBoy is trying to make. The world is trying to change that. I’m no feminist but you aren’t going to send women backward into 1950’s housewives.
Dammit, I promised myself I wouldn’t get involved.
Remember this quote? It’s not "Survival of the strongest. It’s survival of the fittest.
I think women have gone beyond that by now. If they want to be a nurse or a schoolteacher etc that’s their choice. Fine. (and men do those things too) . But women can be as ambitious as men. A woman ran Hewlett-Packard, one of the biggest firms in the world, what’s your argument about that?
Geez, don’t you have a mother and sisters and aunts and nieces? Are you going to discriminate against your own family? Face it, you have a problem with women and it’s not going to get you anywhere. Well, I guess your culture is different and maybe that’s part of the problem.
Dammit again, I swore I wouldn’t get involved. Dammit.
I guess I am lucky once more in my life. I work in a army reserve building as a janitor. The women there are so cool that it’s changed my whole outlook on women. They treat me fine, I treat them fine and I get along great with both women and men there. The gods of schizophrenia have given me too many good things. I’m overwhelmed and I think my head is going to explode in delight.
Yes they are, but since this is a worldwide forum than do yourself a favor and don’t offend women by imposing your negative views on them. It makes you look bad and you see the result. You’re just hurting yourself. Anyways, we made our points, now lets all be good boys and girls and try to get along, lol.
I am just posting my views. It is up to them if they want to respond to my post or not. This is my nature towards women and however their response to me I respect that.
I think a poll asking if women like to be considered as less than equal to men might be needed here to win your argument @77nick77, at least in this case. Put it this way, I have a feeling the overwhelming majority would vote that they do not like to be considered less than equal to men. Therefore it would be a statistic world wide that women do not like feeling that way. I know these forums are rated PG-13 but I have to say with all good humor…
Sometimes you have to put the ■■■■■ on the pedestal.
Back on topic. @Newtothis1 don’t worry dude! It’s part of life. Don’t beat yourself up about it. I know being rejected sucks. Don’t dwell on it, don’t think about it for too long. Just carry on with your chin up.
I’ve always viewed men and women as substantially different, but who is to say either one is better than the other? We need both. I’ve discovered that women lie just as much as men. It’s in that song, “Girls lie too”. Do they ever. Women are showing us that they can do other things just as well as men. I sure would hate to be grouped with that pathetic bunch of men called “incels”.
You guys get one more chance. Please let this go back to emotional support of the girl who originally felt bad about being rejected. Otherwise, I’m shutting it down.
Thank you for sticking up for us women even though it is incredibly stressful to get involved. I really appreciate your support. As for all of what’s his faces comments, I realize I don’t really need to say any more. I wake up each day knowing who I am and what I am capable of. I know hundreds of women very close to me who all own businesses or at the top of their game at professions that e considers to difficult for us. My children school is also filled with working men. It’s simply his narrow minded opinion and I don’t think we need to waste our breath on it anymore.
As for the OP - I hope you understand why I needed to say something on your post. I sincerely hope you continue to ask out people who you are attracted to. I asked my husband out when we were in high school and he said no. And 15 years later we are married and super happy. It hurt for a hot minute. And then it didn’t. I wish you luck in all aspects of love and happiness.
