When I finished school I went on holiday with my friends. In the airport on the way out two girls walked passed and my friends got excited. Instead of saying something sexist I asked them where they were going then I asked the blond one if she was happy with men going for her sexually. I wanted to get her opinion as an independent thinking woman and do the right thing. She said she wanted men to go for her with sexual intentions. She was not only happy she wanted the sexual attention.
This is true and what happened but my psychiatrist says these situations are extreme psychotic episodes and as a result of believing things like what the girl said I must have 150mg paliperidone per month.
This post is to say that one day I will find a similar woman to the girl at Gatwick but until then I am in a lot of trouble if I don’t say it is an unusual belief.
I am so sorry if I offended women. It is what she said. It’s true. It was a really mature conversation. She was going to a different resort so it wasn’t practical.
what the F. Your convo with this girl seems completely strange.
The only way I could see this conversation being real would be if the girl was autistic or just really socially uninhibited. It could happen. It’s just very unlikely. If you try saying things like that to random women in public, expect to get hit a lot. Or just get stared at really strangely. Or have the cops called on you for harassing people.
My point is, it might seem like a conversation that should be no big deal, but social conventions dictate that most women would be very uncomfortable in that situation.
I’ve sometimes wondered how far you could get with a woman telling her you wanted her for her mind. I guess it all depends on what you wanted. If you wanted conversation you might could get that, but if you want sex you should try something different.
I’m not a woman, so you might not want to read my response.
Even though I’m a paranoid sz with little skills in real-life oral communication, I don’t think that was an appropriate question to suddenly ask a young lady, especially since you were a stranger to her. Moreover, the nature of your question seemed to be based on an assumption; which is more of a reason why a stranger probably shouldn’t have asked that type of question.
What is the question exactly, my opinion of what?
young women are interested in getting the attention from men,
but not necessarily sex, because, usually they have misgivings
either about pregnancy, being hurt, being used, being too easy.
at least that’s how it used to be. don’t know about today.
All sex all the time on the schizophrenia forum…
I liked being whistled at, but then, it was a beautiful day and I was in a really good mood.
I personally don’t enjoy being whistled at. It makes me feel unsafe. If they’re just driving by in a car I don’t mind as much.
I don’t like being pursued by strangers. I’ve had men come up to me on the street and compliment something about me - once it was my shoulders! - and then leave after saying their piece. I don’t mind that. It feels like a genuine attempt to make someone feel good about themselves rather than an attempt to get something from someone.
The situation you describe sounds bizarre to me, Alexander, and I strongly recommend that you don’t assume every (or most, or many) woman feels that way. It’s a good way to completely terrify a woman, and possibly get yourself arrested.
you’re not the only one. after reading the seeming contradiction within the first 3 lines, my paranoia kicked in and assumed troll.
The context of the conversation was an extremely sex and alcohol themed lads holiday when we where 18. My friends were going to make comments of a sexual nature as lads do to women in these lads holidays situations. I wanted to know if they were happy with it. When I said my friends got excited that is what I meant. She was happy with the lads commenting and even sexual attention.
This is EXACTLY what I am saying and the point of my thread. In the context of a young guys holiday aged 18 to 30 the conventions are different and the behaviour is obviously more wild. On these holidays they ask one or two women to strip as part of the games. These two girls were going on this sort of holiday and I wanted to get there opinion. Just to be clear I would never ask something like that in any normal situation I would have now. That is why it is on the forum. You might disagree with me or her but it wasn’t fiction and definitely not psychotic. It is a joke because if you arrested every lad in the airport who takes part in holiday lude banter with women you need to arrest the lot. That is the culture of lads holidays.
You asked a question and @Ninjastar answered it and I agree. No need to get so aggressive with the response. You would make me and most of the women I know incredibly uncomfortable. That kind of behaviour towards women is not ok regardless of the type of holiday.
Nothing wrong or unusual with what was said given the context of the situation…
Maybe because I had 3 older brothers that nothing anyone has ever said caused me much concern, things like that just don’t bother me.
I reckon if it was Justin Timberlake or your favourite famous person you fancy if they came up to you in a bar and showed interest you would be happy to do much more than being whistled at. I reckon a Hollywood star would have anything they wanted from you and you wouldn’t be offended by them wanting sex off you. I don’t think there would be any problem with them suggesting something of a sexual nature with you.
I would love to see you turn down Justin Timberlake’s proposal. I want to see that.
How do the girls behave with Harry Styles? As you describe?
The simple question is are they offended or not?
So what is the situation when women meet rock stars or boybands then? Are the girls who like boybands afraid of sex with the members of it? I doubt they have any misgivings.
first: There is a difference between getting positive affection from someone you are interested in and getting harassed by a random stranger. The reason Justin Timberlake and Harry Styles are popular with women is because they have been shown time and time again to be respectful of women. They are attractive, respectful, and talented.
Second: If Justin Timberlake or Harry Styles ever whistled at a woman or just walked up to her and assumed he was entitled to sexually advancing in her without first checking to see if she was interested, it would be a media explosion and their fans would turn on them hardcore. It happened with Justin Bieber and it will happen again.
The assumption that celebrities are entitled to female affection solely on their fame says a lot about your opinion of women in general. Please stop saying creepy things.
I really don’t think that you would dislike being pursued by a Hollywood star or the person you most fancy famous or not. I think Justin Timberlake could do what he wanted and you would be happy to be pursued. I think if he or a famous musician you liked offered something sexual you would have no reservations at all and would act completely differently to how you describe.
I would love to test you turning down a famous male heartthrob’s advances if you were single and see if you do.