Being super nice in my work is paying off (99% of the time)
some people are not possible to please, but after getting a stupid review two weeks ago, I decided to be much nicer, as humanly as possible and also be a bit of a people pleaser which I am not. (might be my mistake)
So I have been chatting more with my clients, being a lot more assertive, helping a lot more so today I got this review.
She was absolutely AMAZING to work with and I am in love! I can’t wait to work with her again!
Always feels good to get positive feedback 
Ironically I’ve had 2 parents so far who switched their child out of my class because I was just “too nice.” The first child was a 3 year old girl who had recently drowned and thus was terrified of the water. The mom wanted me to yell at her and force her to swim anyways. The second child was 5 and I was told cried regularly in class and seemed to not be very confident, would start flailing and looking panicked. My first lesson with him the mom was surprised he didn’t cry. The second lesson the dad came to watch and was not happy that I was helping his floundering son with his swimming (ok), and told me-and this is an exact quote- “You need to throw his ass across the pool.”
I really have no patience for parents like that. Please do switch out of my class. I’m not apologizing for being “too nice” and doing my best to make swimming a positive and non-terrifying experience for your very young child. By all means let someone else traumatize them.
It is strange. I always thought of myself as being super nice but sometimes not sure what people expect?
I mean how nice can someone be? I have to be professional in the end and charge my fees, I realize however I need to go the extra mile to stand out from the rest and also leave people feeling happy after working with me.
Idk but whatever you’re doing now is working apparently lol
I try to be who i am and i try to be nice.
I’m not nice,
And I get mixed results from that.
Some people respond well to my aggressive nature,
Some are offended,
I’m likely not going to change,
So, I’ll probs just stay away from the service industry…
But I’m happy you received such great feedback and that you found it inspiring.
Being nice isn’t easy when dealing with finicky clients.
You did a good job.
I’m a pretty nice person and usually it works in my advantage being nice!! Some people are mean though and will take advantage of you for being nice but screw the outliers!!
A lot of people I will be “hesitant” and give a neutral disposition of niceness…aka I wont be mean nor nice at first until they prove they’re nice, because I don’t trust them and all.
But I’m good at within pretty quick turnaround I can tell you whether that person is nice or not and I will treat them accordingly.
I think its interesting that nice people like myself will sometimes not “trust people with niceness” because being nice…well its sometimes a negative trait in our society to be nice… and wrongfully so!!
Wow! Nice job Selene !
Great job! A positive review like that must surely have lifted your spirits 
I’ve been told I’m too nice. I’m not good at being assertive, and I can be kind of a pushover. But, people are also more than willing to help me when I need it because they know I’d do the same for them in a heartbeat.
I was a lot more aggressive before illness. Now my spirit is like a dove 
I still do not consider myself a people pleaser, I don’t like to pretend things either.
But in my work, it is crucial, because they are paying me, I need to make it seem as positive as possible.
Sometimes I am overwhelmed with the amount of emails I have to type so just a tiny bit of regular-ness, gets me into trouble.
I always try to be helpful and nice and polite. Even when I don’t want to be, just because that’s how I was raised. But I am an ultimate sassmaster and will totally fight you(verbally) if you push me too far.
Yay! That’s awesome. Keep it up. Sounds like what you are doing is working.
I try to be nice but I’ve been used too many times due to my niceness so now I’m moving away from my people pleaser mentality. I’ll help folks and I’ll be the first to extend a sign of respect but if I don’t get it in return after a while I’ll kick their azzes to the curb.
I think people would say I’m really nice, and I try to be nice too. But I’m more than ready to be assertive and do what has to done and say what has to be said when it’s required. I don’t really take much ■■■■
"Don’t mistake my kindness for weakness "
I’d turn that around and say “Don’t mistake my weakness for kindness.”
I’m a coward really, and it’s caused grief for some other people at times. I’m more inclined to bellieve kindness is in act, not words, so I’m mostly not nice, but it isn’t a 100% thing.
I always try to be nice. For some people that just doesn’t work and I can be a bastardo if I have to be. Always found it just makes things go smoother if your positive and nice about things. No point being negative, that tends to feed on itself.
Well done you! Always good to see someone doing well when implementing such strategies. Personal politic is always interesting to me!
You have always been super nice here 
but I like you take your feedback as a positive thing 
No I’m mean horrible and full of boy germs.
I’m nice but a bit cautious.
I don’t open up so easily.