As the title suggests this stems from different videos that I was watching about how women treat nice guys. However I think it would be interesting to hear people’s opinions from both sides.
Due to my abusive upbringing, whenever a guy is nice to me I immediately assume he is trying to lull me into a false sense of security so he can rape me. I don’t think my case is typical, though.
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I think thank god i was allowed to meet someone kind for a change. With so many people its “me first” “mine” i win you lose" “pay attention to me now”. Its great when someone is nice for a change.
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It usually happens too quick for my slow mind to process. It happens and then later I’m thinking to myself, “huh, that was nice.”
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Well hopefully slowly but surely you can trust again.
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I’m getting better with it. I have several male friends and a husband. But if it’s a stranger, I’m always wary of their motives.
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It makes me feel good and I try to be nice back. I do think nice guys do get taken advantage of or used. On the surface, most women are nice but women are shrewd observers of male behaviors and they can judge pretty quickly a guys weaknesses compared to other guys…
But hey. Why am I being negative? When the women at work say “hi” to me and smile I am just going to enjoy the moment. And most of the time nobody is obligating them to be nice to me, they just make the choice themselves so why should I ruin it?
My co-worker from a couple of years ago was not a nice women. We were about the same age and I’m sure she was schizophrenic too. She was the epitome of a women taking advantage of guys who were mentally ill. I worked with her for about three years. As far as I know she didn’t have a nice bone in her body. She took advantage of me and the other guys.The only time she was nice was when she needed something from you. Oh well, water under the bridge. You can’t be nice to everyone. Anyways, I got the last laugh because after ten years on the job she failed a drug test and got fired on the spot.
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I get an impression that I need to treat him back. Of course my case is specific too.
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gosh Nick, that’s awful you laughed that she lost her job…? I guess you had your reasons.
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She must have been really mean. I can’t imagine Nick laughing at the misery of too many people, but everyone has their limits.
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Doing nice things is formal and polite. People are raised and told to do nice things, because such nice behavior is favored in society and at work. sometimes a nice gesture is automatic and without much thought, like a lady opening a door for me.
Nice gestures are just formal custom. I don’t over-think them, especially because of my paranoid schizophrenia.
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I think they are a nice person and I am nice back. If they have any undertones of objectification or sexualization, I am wary and defensive. I have a long history of men having an agenda. If they are just genuinely, platonically nice, then that is quite wonderful and I am nice right back.
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She was very cruel to me for three years. When she lost her housing about a year before she got fired, she asked me to help her out by going online and searching Craigslist for apartments because she didn’t have access to a computer. Since we were co-workers and since we kind of knew each other I went online every night for a few weeks and checked out housing options for her by finding apartments and printing out 7 or 8 pages a night for viable optics for her. I called her most nights to update her. She still treated me bad and never thanked me.
She was the most disturbed person I ever worked with. When we would walk from building to building doing our job she would follow me from a foot behind and try to intimidate me, even tripping me once. Very few people liked her and her greatest pleasure was bothering everyone. I give her mad props (hmmm first time I ever used that term) for being able to hold a job but as a human being she was lacking in basic human niceties.
And by the way, she got a huge sum of money from an inheritance when her mom died, like more than a $100,000 so she when she got fired she was still set financially for many years to come.
I go out of my way to be nice to all people. When females are nice to me I just think there nice. If there all touchy or say something inappropriate or suggestive I really keep my distance from them and avoid doing anything nice for them. I’m married and don’t want to give them the wrong idea. But I find some women are very suspicious about you when your nice to them so I try not to be overly nice to them because I don’t like that they judged me negatively. Then there’s the extreme fiminist that think your a pig because you opened a door for them. There stupid because I open the door for the guy behind me also.
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I don’t hate you daze and Sarad has never told me to hate you.
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I love you both, BUT ooooooo this is getting juicy!
Nah nice is one thing but harder for some to get it.
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