Anyone tried Tinder?

You can do what you want and share what you want, that’s up to you. But if you spend a year or two with a woman, and get emotionally attached to her, and then she finds out and dumps you you’re only going to get hurt.

I can only speak for myself but if the tables were turned and she had some major problem and didn’t tell me relatively early on in the relationship I would be upset with her.

It is more ok for a woman to be ‘crazy’ and date than it is for a man to be ‘crazy’ and date.

Is this because men will screw anything and women are more choosy?

I’d rather have two years as opposed to 1 month, those 2 yrs could be amazing, why do a pre-emptive strike?

idk i just deal with things as they happen, if she seems fine i’m not that bothered and if something happens there isnt much i can do except be there for her .

Unfortonalyy @Resilient1 you either join the superficiallity no matter how fake it seems and feels or you get left out

I’m the opposite. I’d rather be single than be in a relationship full of secrets knowing it could come to an end at any time if she found out. For me, knowing she might find out and dump me would preclude me from thinking this is an amazing relationship.

If I find a girl accepting of my condition I’d feel a lot more comfortable in the relationship.

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@Headspark my therapist told me that people don’t want to charge with to much info on others right from the start . Everybody needs a little superficial knowing before getting to really know the others

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@anon96203037 Like I said earlier in the thread, I’ve had friends I’ve known for years that drifted away after I told them. I’ve told a woman after a month, and I’ve told women almost immediately. It doesn’t make a difference.

I had an ex call me that I dated for a year and a half like 20 years ago and she wanted to hook up. I told her that a few years after we broke up i was diagnosed with schizophrenia and I never heard from her again, and she knows me well.

I don’t inundate women with all kinds of scary information right away. But I do tell them relatively early on because I don’t want to waste my time.

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I would do the same. I’d want it out into the open as soon as possible. If they can get past it, then we can go forward with an honest relationship. I believe in truthful communication, and I would want someone to disclose heavy info like that to me early on, too.

Not a first date. But soon. I wouldn’t want to waste my time, either.

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Maybe if it came up in conversation, and she or he asked if you were alright out of concern i’d say i’m feeling a bit low or i’m just a bit out of sorts,

there are lots of different ways of explaining how you feel in a relationship without saying ‘oh i’ve got schizophrenia’

My diagnosis isnt who i am so i dont think it should define whether my relationship should end or not either.

Me neither. I haven’t told any of my previous girlfriends I have sz. SZ doesn’t define me and it never came up in such that they never questioned my mental health and I was unmedicated for all of these relationships.

I pass as normal so I had no problems getting a gf, socialising etc.

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I have used tinder. Had some good conversations there… I have uninstalled all dating apps though. Maybe winter break I will use them again.

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i wont tell if i dont have to, i didnt tell my first gf who i had a long term relationship (15yrs) she knew from the start anyway but she saw the person not the illness, same with the recent girl but she was a bit mixed up with some of her own issues (she didnt leave me bc of my illness)

@LunaNoir what kind of person are you looking for on there if you dont mind me asking?

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I just setup my Tinder again

After swiping left and right for 10mins I am bored.

Funny how pathetic it is judging someone like that.

Guess it’s all about having the initial physical attraction

Wouldn’t be surprised if I become asexual one day

This ■■■■ is too much effort for not much

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Maybe they’re afraid of having a child with sz. Maybe find a women who cant have kids or who don’t want kids.

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yeah its not fair on some people, you got to have the right look, smile or something, i try and look for a glimmer of hope in their eyes lol, idk if that makes sense, if i think they have a caring vibe about them.

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My profile picture is me with a trilby hat in t shirt and shorts with a Lucky Strike hanging out my mouth

If that’s not enough to put someone off they’re a keeper

:black_heart: :poop:

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I had more luck with Bumble. I didn’t tell them I have sz but didn’t get to meet anyone, just long conversations about life. I matched with a lebanese girl, arab like me, she asked me tons of questions I gave up responding to her then she unmatched me. She asked me what is my dream, where I went last vacation, what I am studying and what do I work, if I visited my natal country, what I did in my day, etc

I didn’t have issues until she asked what type of job I have. I blocked as I don’t work and didn’t want to tell her that I can’t work as my last gf left me bcz I couldn’t hold jobs.

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I gave up on finding a gf again, I am happy enough now with my friends.

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How do girls date a guy who is on disability and not working? My gf left me after 5yrs bcz I couldn’t hold a single job for more than a month. She wanted me to live with her and pay half her rent. My last gf was a normie, no mental illness.

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The long term partner i had was in the same boat on disability benefits, the recent girl i dated was on disability as well,

The recent girl i encouraged her to apply for a flat and i think she has one now :slight_smile: its good for her but she doesnt talk to me now.

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