I’m sort of at a crossroads at my work. Basically I can either stay in my position, which I like what I do and it’s good for my mental health, or I can accept a position that pays several dollars more an hour, but I don’t know if I will like the work, and I don’t know if I will be able to handle working more closely with other people. I have been doing well on rexulti, and feel like I could maybe handle it, but if I take that position and end up having a relapse or just having too much stress, I won’t be able to go back to my current position.
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Why mess with success?
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Because with the addition of the baby, we could really use some more money coming in.
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Dunno. Can you make any savings in other areas instead? You may surprise yourself. Basically I vote for stay where you are and see where you guys can cut back on spending. Just my 2 cents.
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As there are religious people in Israel with multiple kids with a" tight belt"
I would say try to manage your resources better I advise against leaving your job if you are doing well.
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This is a tough situation. It’s a shame you can’t go back to your old position if things don’t work out in the new one and for that reason alone, even though the extra money would really help, I’d stay in the current position if I were in your shoes.
What are you leaning towards?
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Is the job within the same company? If so, perhaps you can ask for some sort of two week trial period. Even if is with a different company, it may be worth asking. Maybe you can explain that you have a newborn and want to make sure you can handle the demands of the job. Otherwise, I vote to stay with the old job.
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I don’t think having a newborn justifies having more money.
@everhopeful that’s what I’d like to do, I think we’re ok financially, but I’m not the one that does the bills
@anon84763962 I’m leaning towards staying, but it’s something I feel like I have to seriously consider
@User50 it’s with the same company, but they won’t give me a trial period, I’m pretty sure about that, but it’s something worth asking
@Erez_Shmerling I have a family to support. The more people you add, the more money it costs. That’s all there is to it.
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What about your wife doesn’t she have a family to support?
There are many households in Israel where only women work and men study religion.
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In my family we have an agreement that I will support the family and my wife will stay at home with the children. My work schedule is set up in a way that would make it impossible for both of us to work. When the children are all old enough to be in school she will look for a job that is during school hours.
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More money equals less stress financially but I don’t work well with other people.
I get to feeling like they are part of the conspiracy and want me to fail.
You have to weigh how your symptoms affect you. Let us know what you decide.
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@anon68237654 which job do you think you would enjoy more? Would the new job require the same rotating shifts and 365 day a year work schedule?
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@Moonbeam my schedule would still be the same. I think I like my job now and I’m not sure if I would like the other job
Since you spend so much time at work, it seems like staying with the job you like and that is less stressful may outweigh the financial benefits of the new job.
Of course, the ideal scenario would be if your employer would agree to let you try the new job on a trial basis with the option of going back to your old job. It’s definitely worth asking your employer about this.
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As my sponsor in AA used to say to me, “if you’re coasting, that means you’re going downhill.”
I tend to view challenges as blessings.
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I don’t like challenges BUT, just to live for me is a challenge.
I have to deal with being low functioning, having severe sleep quality and cognitive problems
and a constant stream of intrusive thoughts.
I have no choice but to deal with it, no way out for me.
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That’s the nature of life. I made the decision that, if I was going to live with stress, I’d like to so at a respectable standard. You know, a nice home, steaks on the barbie, etc. So I pushed myself back into the workforce. Been there ever since.
Haha not for all @shutterbug!
There are people who manage to lead relaxed lives!
You, at least, are able to work!!
I suffer from constant 24 hour pressure and nothing to show for it!!
To be fair there are people in an even worse state than me, much worse.
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Don’t miss out on a good amount of time with your kids is all I would say. My dad sacrificed a lot for his job, and I hardly ever saw him when I was growing up. He earnt a lot of money after many promotions, but that didn’t make me happy. Except that one time at Christmas when he bought me a train set… Hmm.
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