I fail to understand. Why would he want a relationship with no sexual contact?
It is pointless in my opinion.
Sex isn’t priority for everyone.
Some people are asexual or don’t like sex for whatever reason.
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Sex is the icing in a relationship, it’s not the cake.
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Well a relationship is a whole lot more than just puttin ur hoodilly in a hoohah. Its a partner a friend, someone supportive etc someone fun, all sorts.
If u are just looking for sex theres plenty of parlours lol
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But, from my perspective, the last thing I would want is to drain my mental energy on someone I can’t even have sex with.
In my humble opinion you are not thinking from a guy’s perspective: Sex may not be important, but if a relationship is incomplete without sex, the last thing he wants is someone to talk with just for the sake of talking with her. I fail to see the point if I were to get into such a relationship: The question would be, do I feel incomplete in my company with myself, or do I need someone to show off to others, or do I need an emotional belonging, etc, etc…that is why I think such a relationship would be pointless from a guy’s perspective.
From a guy’s perspective?
There are guys that aren’t interested in sex.
You’re just thinking from your own sexist perspective.
Don’t pull all men into it.
Sex may be paramount to you,
But that’s not the case for everyone.
And honestly, it’s a little immature to think that’s all a relationship is.
You’re single?
Yes?
How is it remotely sexist?
You are assuming I am sexist. I agree that there are guys who don’t look at women as just instruments of sexual gratification (I would be one), but from my perspective, I would be secure in myself by myself.
I am single, but about to get engaged.
You’re saying women are a waste of time without sex.
Reread what you wrote man.
It’s not flattering.
Does your future wife know that you don’t want to talk to her for the sake of talking to her?
You just want her to put out all the time?
She must be thrilled.
No I didn’t say women are a waste of time without sex. You misconstrued me.
This.
It’s not cute.
I don’t look at her as a sex-object, but I think the relationship would be incomplete without sex (for me and for her). I think she would agree with me. That wouldn’t necessarily be sexist. I am saying sex is part of a relationship, it is not the only part to a relationship.
I see you backtracking now.
That’s cool.
We already saw what you wrote.
You don’t value women and so much is obvious.
It is not sexist. I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship to show to others I am in a relationship. Nor would I feel insecure in myself being alone.
If you like each other’s company, then you are already friends. There is nothing wrong with it. I wouldn’t, however, call it a ‘relationship.’
Whatever.
When I got married it was for equal partnership,
Not sex.
We have great sex, but that’s not most important by far.
Right now I have the flu and my husband has been working full time, cooking, cleaning and taking care of me.
That’s what relationships are.
Taking care of each other.
Not someone who is always there for you to ■■■■.
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I think the term you are searching for is a ‘friend’. Two friends can live together and help each other out. I wouldn’t still call it a ‘relationship’. I suppose it is about how you define a relationship.
Sexism is unequal treatment of men and women. Can you show me how I am treating them unequally?
Friend?
You have some messed up views man.
You are treating women unequally by valuing them only by sex.
Let’s end this argument. Discussions are allowed, just not insults. This has gotten way off topic. Next step will be to lock, so let’s just get back on topic.
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She called me a sexist, that is not hidden.
If I were treating men and women unequally, I would be sexist. I think sex is an important part of a relationship, not the only part of a relationship. But, she jumped from that to, “I am valuing women only for sex” and from there she jumped to, “I am a sexist”. These are some bizarre associations, and reflect her biases, not mine.
If you want to argue with the moderators it will not achieve anything but a suspension. If you have a problem with a decision you need to pm us. I’ve not done anything, except flagged a post. My gentle suggestion is that you move from this topic. You also have the ability to silence a member in your account if you don’t wish to further read their posts.
I had women that I fantasized about and wish I dated. I dated a few of these dream girls and they weren’t what I imagined. Now I’ve changed my expectations. I don’t fantasize anymore. I let reality present itself.
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