Where my asexuals at?!

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I am not asexual but the meds that I am now on - Risperdal, makes me very close to being asexual - they quell down my libido and drive

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Well at this point in my life, Iā€™m kind of ready to figure out how to not think about sex. It is probably the meds, because I used to have a gf, no problems there, but that was years ago, now Iā€™ve fallen into this sz mess.
99% I have no interest in sex or sexual thinking it is more of a burden when my minds goes there. This is one of the areas I have been able to work on and I have changed. I want to be asexual but I know Iā€™m probably not, just a guy who hasnā€™t had sex in a while. If I never have sex again though I wonā€™t care. Mom more interested in love, that would end my isolation. Itā€™s pretty hard to feel confident dating when you have no real interest in sex and actually kind of despise it. Maybe that would go away with more experience, I mean dating people as a sexless person. Perhaps it only seems awkward from the outside.

Thinking about it raises a lot of questions. Like would she be more likely to cheat etc.

I do believe that if I met the right girl everything would work out, but other then that Iā€™m pretty much asexual. Def not interested in casual sex.

I think love is harder to find then purely physical relationships.

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For a while I was pretty sure I was asexualā€¦

Then the meds got changed upā€¦ the negative symptoms started to liftā€¦

Then I met a girlā€¦ with no intention other then plutonic friendsā€¦

but as life began to wake upā€¦ friends became less plutonic.

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Where my sexuals at?

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25

im pretty much the opposite of asexual, it actually disrupts my life at times it just consumes my thinking.

if i was asexual id probably be extremely productive lol

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I wonder if Iā€™m asexual quite often. I mean, growing up I never fantasized sexually about anyone I liked, ever. Even in hs and now, it just doesnā€™t interest me. I still have romantic feelings towards the opposite gender but I mean if you think about it, sex is really gross.

But then again Iā€™ve had negative experiences with it that could be affecting my view as well, so Iā€™m not setting anything in stone. (I think with sexuality you canā€™t really ever set anything in stone. Itā€™s a spectrum.)

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Iā€™m not asexual though I havenā€™t had sex for 24 years. I still get sexual urges and the need to masturbate though the frequency has lessened.
The intimacy involved with getting to the sex act and my own inadequacies in performing the act are major put offs for me. I would have to feel emotionally close to someone and trust they could accept me with my idiosyncrasies before I could think of sex. The trouble is I get anxious when people get too close,fearing that in doing so they will get to see how unappealing I am and reject meā€¦

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I feel the same way, pretty much ditto to everything you said.

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Interestingly enough, I just decided on asexuality a day or two ago.
The urge and anticipation almost always outweigh the act. Besides, sz makes me feel like an unfit person to be a husband, lover, or father so Iā€™d rather not open the door. Ya know?

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itā€™s the meds, the meds side effects reduce desire

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Its been 18yrs but I still like women and having one for the companionship would be great.From what I remember sex with my girlfriend was almost all I wanted to do befor sz kicked in bad.When I say women I mean that literally. ā€¦a fully matured (intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually) womanā€¦unfortunately with women liberated they choose to spend decades of their lives living like 13 yr old girls and for me thats such a turn off I donā€™t even try to find one.People think im weird and they are right but for the wrong reason.I honestly donā€™t get turned on by little girlsā€¦real or figurative.