Just curious. I’ve had sexual experiences in the past but all of my experiences sex have just disgusted me(all except except one experience I had in 2019, but that was a one time thing) all other times I cringe when I think about sex or seeing someone else’s naked body. I have no desire for sex, or any kind of sexual activity whether it be a man or a woman. I’m just now coming to terms that I actually don’t think there’s anything “wrong” with me, I think I’m actually asexual. 
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The last time I had sex it was a pretty terrible experience I dont want to do that again but I still masterbait every 4 days or so
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I kinda don’t think anyone is actually asexual. They just haven’t met the right partner yet.
That wouldn’t be asexual then because you still have a sexual desire from my understanding.
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Wow thanks a lot
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What I mean I guess, is that lousy past sexual relationships have deterred you from wanting more. The right partner might change that.
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No I really don’t think it’s that. Sex literally repulses me and sends chills down my spine. My last partner I was with I thought I completely trusted so naturally I thought I should WANT to have sex with him but I never did it was always forced which always left me feeling disgusting and a crying mess afterwords. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with me by saying I have no sexual desire(maybe the meds did it I don’t know) and do not want to ever again have sex with someone including myself. INCLUDING masturbation. That disgusted me too.
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I don’t consider myself asexual as I want to satisfy and please my partner that I love. Sexually I’m not hot to trot except with my partner who gets me excited.
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Yeah, patrick, I really think your wrong on this one. Pretty sure there are asexual people in the world.
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It’s a very personal thing. If you feel people are overstepping the line on this don’t be afraid to flag inappropriate responses. We are a welcoming community for everyone.
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Thank you for your kind oversight on this @rogueone I will flag anything that I feels crosses the line of being accepting into being discriminatory
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We have quite a few members who feel the same way. It’s a quiet time for the boards now but I’m sure you’ll get some more positive responses when they come online. Sexuality really is a personal thing to me. I don’t judge anyone else and I certainly wouldn’t force my idea of ideal on them. From my personal experience sexualiy really is fluid and that is a good thing as we move to a more modern world.
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I don’t know if only having one person who excites me would be considered asexual. I’m not interested in sex with anyone other than my partner. With me it’s needing to please him and having sex doesn’t bother me.
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Yes, I do identify myself as such. I don’t have any feelings for anyone. It feels good to me. I am more platonic person in most cases, and like friendship more.
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I am not asexual, but I saw a beautiful documentary following two asexual persons starting a relationship together. Wanted to share here. Both were from different countries, met online, I think on a website that connects asexual people. They met to go on a long trip together. In this trip they started a relationship that was very fulfilling for both, but nothing sexual happened, even if they shared a bed the whole trip, because neither had any interest in that. It gave a very loving picture of the both. And I got the feeling from that, there was nothing abnormal about them…they just had different wiring in this respect, which is fine. Don’t feel abnormal, there are many more people like you.
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I dont reckon im A-sexual. I just cant be bothered with the “mess” and the possible drama that goes with it 
If a man/woman comes my way, just maybe ill pursue it. But i aint looking.
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I’m asexual, and it took me a long time to come to terms with it.
I feel I’m doomed to be forever single and unwanted because most other people place some significance on sex in a relationship.
The majority of my partners equated sex with love - and my lack of sex with a lack of love.
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That’s silly thinking someone doesn’t love you unless they have sex. I can think of a couple of straight guys I was friends with and can say I loved their friendship with me. I’m gay btw and there definitely wasn’t any sex.
I would add I have several women I’m friends with and love being friends. There’s no se there too.
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I think I am, I just don’t care for sex.
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I definitely considered myself asexual for a long time. I thought to do with sexual assault and humiliating sexual experiences from a young age and avoidance and fear. I would go into a freeze responce. My parents didnt encourage me with relationships. Outsiders seemed to think there was something wrong with me for not being in a relationship for a long time. So I felt extremely grateful for coming across antinatalism too. Later on. Felt like a blessing. I was no longer alone so to speak. I was also extremely independent until I started getting hospitalised a lot. And for extensive periods. Still I considered myself not interested sexually. But, antinatalism seems now extremist, but thats not such a bad thing depending on the way you view life I suppose. Just I guess I like to try to be more open minded and I found the philosophy surrounding it quite depressing to say the least. So I’ve backed off currently. And sorry for the ramble. But I don’t know where I am with asexuality now either. As I did meet someone last year and for the first time in a very long time was sexually active. I am no longer though. But it still resonates with me strangely to be alone. I do feel abnormal. But how do you want to spend your life? I won’t rule out the possibility anymore I think that things can radically change, for better or worse. I’m trying to be more open to change. But I don’t see the need to put a label to it either anymore I think. It helped to think there was a phrase I could refer to as being. Gives some solace. Yet I don’t really feel anything fits. Anymore. Life’s so curiously strange and diverse. Some people can unify under a label whilst others find means to codify such as ostracism.
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