What to do when my parents die?

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My brothers would put me in the streets in a heartbeat when my parents die.
I spoke with my mother about it and she will give me the house we’re living in now.
Its a big house, basement + 2 floors, and I can’t take care of it. I can barely take care of myself.

The hospital won’t take me unless I am unmedicated. I don’t know how I am going te get food and survive.

Its not happening soon because I am 30 y.o. but that day is approaching.

Is there nurses that can get me food, clean the house and wash my cloths?

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you may have to downsize or look into an assisted living facility or something like that. i think your in canada right? i don’t know how it is in canada. i’ve heard some people do group homes also. i wonder the same thing, im trying to be more responsible so i can manage without my parents. i will have my own place before they pass, but im at a loss on home improvement stuff, im not that handy around the house. dad takes a look at things when i have a problem. im also considering a condo, where they do the maintanence and not having a yard to take care of.

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Things will work out.

Are you on disability? Do you work?

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No they won’t give disability in Canada because I don’t live on my own and don’t pay rent.

I can’t work, I quit 15 different jobs so I gave up.

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Maybe you can hire a private caregiver?
Don’t worry things will work out for you.
I have the same concerns and fears.

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You could always get a live in caretaker type roommate. Offer room and board in exchange for them buying groceries and cleaning.

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I’m scared, too. Not only would I be unbearably lonely without my husband, but I wouldn’t have anyone to take care of me. I don’t know if I can be trusted with my meds, and I don’t even get up to cook for myself. I can’t see myself wanting to date again as no one could possibly compare to my husband, so it would just be me provided the kids have grown up and moved out.

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I don’t know where to find someone I trust.
I had a friend, when I was on Abilify, who has social anxiety disorder. He wanted to live with me but I got into a fight with him and we don’t talk anymore.

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There is a website called care.com where you could find people. I worked as a live in Nanny through that site. I also got paid 800 per week, but that was in NYC so I’m sure the rate would be lower elsewhere.

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I guess time will fix anything and maybe in 10 years when my parents die, I will find a solution.

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If you are on medicare, there are some programs that will let you have a caregiver if you qualify.

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Thanks, that website sounds interesting, it works in Canada. I bookmarked it.

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I got diagnosed and out on meds when I was your age.

I worried about homelessness early on in my treatment.

8 years later I’ve improved and will be living independently whenever I get my ass in gear.

My recommendation is to stay on the meds and take care of yourself. Things will improve.

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I was diagnosed at 21. I started hearing voices at around 17 y.o. I hope to improve if its possible.

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life goes on, i wouldn’t worry about it …

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I’ve thought about this a lot. I honestly don’t know what I’m going to do when that happens. I have so much trouble taking care of myself… I’ll probably end up homeless and unmedicated

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