Question about living situation

I got a question about living situations. Me and my Dad started to talk about when he passes away. My mom just passed away about 4 months ago. So when my dad passes I will have nobody around and I don’t have enough friends to sustain me. So we talked about group homes that don’t require a job. Is that possible? Any other ideas like getting a case worker, what is a case worker anyways? Any retirement homes for younger people?


I’m in the same boat. Both my parents are alive but when they go I could be in trouble.

Over here in Oz you can get housing but there’s long waiting lists. I’ve discussed this with my psydoc and he could probably move to get me in if I needed it. Always pays to think ahead so whatever your system is your better finding out now!

There is accomadation out there in most countries…do your research now!


Sorry for the loss of your mother @Jake - sincere condolences.


Thank you Tomasina:hugs:


I’m sorry for your loss, Jake. I agree with rogueone. Plan ahead! Heck, I’m already looking into assisted living facilities, and I’m only 33. Best to know have a plan in place than to be caught off-guard, especially since you will be grieving at the time and may be dealing with funeral plans and the like at the time. Your pdoc may have some answers for you.


Because I’m on SSI, I have a documented disability. Because I have a documented disability, I’m entitled to discounts from all the utilities. One has to apply for those discounts.


@Jake I’m sorry about your mom. :frowning: have you thought about getting on the waitlist now? In the US it’s 3 years or more for the waitlist to get housing for the disabled. At least in my area it is. If you get set up now, you won’t have to be displaced later.


Sorry for your loss @Jake.

I agree with everyone else, start preparing now.

Can you ask your pdoc about how to get information on supported housing and how to get in touch with a case worker or social worker who could help you with planning for your future?

A group home is a good idea! You will have a community there. They may have thanksgiving dinners, etc. it is also nice to volunteer with a mental health organization or a hospital and go to a good church. Let people know you’re alive and part of the community. My parents are buying another house, so when they go I will have rent income to live off of. Getting old seems scary but I’m sure it’ll be ok if you have some partners to go through it with.

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I’m absolutely terrified about my parents passing. Cause they support me entirely at the moment. And I have No one else to turn too.

I’m sorry for your loss and I hope everything works out for the best for you.


Thanks for being sorry for my loss. I hope you find something to help you. I am exactly like you with this situation except for being absolutely terrified. I’m worried though and scared.

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First of all, it’s a great idea to plan ahead for the inevitable. It’s good to have some kind of plan in place already before your dad passes.

I’m not sure what you mean by “sustain”. I doubt your friends are going to support you with money, housing, a car etc for a long period of time. But it’s good to have friends to lean on and support you with their company and encouragement and just be there for you emotionally.

I’ve lived in several group homes. I lived in one group home for 5 years and lived in a couple more for more than a year each. And I’ve lived in temporary homes where they are set up for people to make transitions i.e. if they just got out of the hospital or if people just had a major life event (such as a parent dying). These homes take people in crisis who have mental illness and need a place to stay until they are more stable and ready to find permanent housing. None of the temporary homes OR the long term homes required people to have jobs. But they don’t let you live there free…

I live pretty much independently but the clinic I go through for a doctor and therapists and physical doctors, and other services assigned me a case worker. A case worker has many functions and is there to help you find housing for example, introduce to other resources in the community such as food banks, cheap transportation, support groups etc , hook you up with a vocational program possibly. They are not therapists, they don’t do therapy but they will give you friendly support and encouragement. They may even take you out for coffee maybe. They are in touch with various other agencies who can help you with what you need.

The case worker helps you plan for the future, they can kind of be your friend a little. They help you make appointments and try to help you keep the appointments. Like I said, they have many functions designed to try to help you to have a decent quality of life.

For almost 7 years I lived in an apartment complex community which consisted mainly of seniors and disabled people. The seniors were in the majority, but there were maybe a couple dozen disabled people. but I had to be on a waiting list for four years until an apartment opened up.
It was a nice place though. I lived by myself in a like-new studio. I was going through some bad times mentally and I had conflicts with certain other residents (big mistake by me) but the place was mostly quiet and my rent was cheap because of Section 8 housing. And yeah, you might want to look into Section 8 housing.if it’s applicable in your state or area.

Yeah, just look into Federal or state agencies that help low-income people find decent housing which the agency will pay some of the rent. Anyways, hopefully this helped. But finding a case worker is a good start. Just find a clinic or call up your states, cities, or county’s welfare department to get information about what kind of help is available in your area. Good luck!!


thank you that helped. Is section 8 for the less wealthy people or can people with money go there? When I said the word sustain(keep myself up with my needs) I meant I don’t have enough friends to take care of my needs. Isn’t that what the word sustain means. Having enough friends to preserve me.

When you apply for Section 8 you have to fill out paperwork. I would assume that they want to know your income and where it comes from, and and they would use that figure to determine if you qualify. But I don’t have exact numbers or the cut-off where they think you have too much money. It should be fairly easy to do a search and read up on it.

Thanks for the imfo

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oh I thought group homes make you work. That’s good to know

I’m ok financially when my father passes, but the problem is having friends and socializing, I socialize with my dad the most by far. I talk to my dad every day. With my friend I only socialize once a week. That’s going to make a huge difference with socializing less. I know without a doubt I wouldn’t make it.

In the ones I lived in it was OK if you didn’t work but they don’t mind if you do. I was in one in 1982 and they required everybody to have a daytime activity. They locked the doors of the house at
9:00 am and didn’t open them to let anyone back in until about 2:00 pm. Everybody either worked, went to school or went to a vocational program. This was a unique place which was heavily structured so you had to account for your time during the day. You couldn’t just wander out the door and go hang out in the park in the day and do nothing or hang out at a restaurant. They wanted to know your schedule. But like I said, the place was a unique place.