I still live with my parents at 31y.o. I don’t know if I will be able to live by myself after they die. Paperwork, bills, laundry, cleaning, home reparations, etc I hate going out of the house. Can everything be done at home? How easy is it?
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Im living with my parents and I’m 37 years old. I’m in Toronto so rent is really high, I could move out and get an apartment but I wouldn’t be able to save any money. I have lived on my own for a long time before that. If you find a place to live on disability money you basically never have to leave the house. The Uber app delivers groceries now so all you have to do is place an order for your food and household supplies and they will deliver it.
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So all paperwork and bills can be done at home? Insurance, home reparations, etc?
When you rent a house are you respinsible for home reparations?
Almost everything can be. Your health card will expire every so often and you will have to go to service canada to get a new one.
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no, your landlord.
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I been on my own for many years, as I age I slow down or if depression hits
My guess is now if I had a partner I would be living in the shed lol, Would be nice to have someone, unable to save any money when on your own,
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Thanks a lot @anon84461028
I feel better now.
You could get a representative payee to manage yer money and take care of bills for you.
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Yea, I would be happy enough if I manage to live by myself. I figure I need to be independent first before thinking about a partner and even then I don’t think its possible as I stay in bed most of the time, I would make the partner depressed and sad.
I never really lived by myself other than with my grandmother and even then it was my parents doing the groceries, etc but I was able to do the laundry and some cleaning.
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Thanks, is there requirements for that? Do they take a fee?
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No requirements. And they take a small fee
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I like living by myself. I have a boyfriend who lives with me now and I like that too.
When I lived alone my paranoia would get pretty bad and sometimes I wouldn’t be able to pull myself out of a psychotic episode which really REALLY sucked. Now SO usually notices earlier than I would’ve on my own and helps me not spiral so much.
I still loved it though because I could do whatever I wanted. I struggle with OCD and so I don’t often slack with housekeeping things like cleaning or bills. It’s a good thing because I am on top of things. But also frustrating at times because sometimes my fingers crack and bleed from all the compulsive cleaning. I am better about it now that SO lives with me.
TLDR: I like living alone very much but it requires a lot of work to stay on top of things. My mental health is better now that I have someone to share my home with.
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I would advise against living alone because of the loneliness.
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I got out today around town on foot and it was a life saver!
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For me the main problem with living alone is trying to stay grounded in reality. When you’re alone the delusions can creep up because you don’t have people around you constantly reminding you what normal looks like.
I haven’t suffered from delusions in a few years, but I haven’t lived alone in that time either. Last time I lived alone was for a year in 2016 and I was still quite delusional at that point.
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I don’t find living alone difficult. Enjoy living with my woman more, though.
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I live alone and I love it. People make me paranoid. I don’t know why. I guess they stress me out too much. I know I do much better both mood and thought wise when I’m by myself.
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I have lived alone for 5 years now.
The first 6 months I struggled to adjust, and was hospitalised a few times, but I got used to it in the end
Love it. No one can tell me what to do or invade my personal space.
At home I answer to no one!
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A lot of times living on your own just takes common sense.
Most of it is not some mysterious secret. You feed yourself and keep your place clean. That’s the basics. I ain’t saying it’s always easy but a lot of it isn’t difficult.
If you live by yourself you will probably have three or four or five of the same bills to pay each month. If you do all your business online; internet, phone, utilities, banking; it makes it easier. Just set up automatic payments and the payments will be automatically deducted from your bank account at the same time each month.
Once a month you write out a check for the rent.
If you have a therapist or case worker I’m sure they would give whatever help they could and give you tips on living alone.
My advice is be nice to the neighbors. You don’t have to be overly friendly but try to be civil and on good terms with them. I started out OK at my current place, but now all my neighbors hate me and a few of them just use me for their plans and that’s all I am to them. A stepping stone.
Anyways, I lived by myself for 7 years. It can be fun and it’s neat having your own space. You just have to stay on top of certain things and take care of a few responsibilities.
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